We are passionate about helping physicians achieve marital and financial success. We reached Financial Independence
in 5 years after training.
When will you join us?

Hello friends!

My name is Kate Mangona and I’m super excited to announce the launch of my podcast Medicine, Marriage and Money coming to you on September 14th, 2020.

This will be a space where we focus on creating marital interdependence and financial independence.

We will discuss the benefits and drawbacks of being in a dual physician relationship. Not only does a successful relationship or marriage take focused effort and determination, it also requires an environment of love, safety and growth.

In medicine, marriage and money, we will examine the relationships of highly successful dual physician couples. We will interview couples who have it all and gather the mindset required for success.

Come with me as we dive into the inside network of physicians in love. My hope is that you can use their knowledge and successes as your spring board into a stronger, more loving and financially savvy relationship with your spouse.

I am your host on Medicine, Marriage and Money. a board certified pediatric radiologist, wife, mother and life coach.

Get pumped to embark in a journey that tests the boundaries of what you think is possible.

 

Are you a physician or married to a physician or other high achieving professional?

Are you having a difficult time connecting with your spouse?

Are you and your spouse on different financial pages?

Do you find yourself avoiding talking about finances with your spouse, particularly how to save, spend and invest money?

 

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, this is a podcast for you!

In this space, we will examine what makes a strong relationship and what it takes to become financially independent with your spouse.

After each episode, I will invite you to ask yourself, “What small tweaks can I make today that will create a huge and lasting impact in my relationship with my spouse and my bank account?’’ We believe there is enough joy, love and wealth in this world for everyone. It just takes determination, desire and an open mind and heart to find it and take it.

Are you ready?

Here we go.

Medicine, Marriage and Money and its owners’, presenters’, and employees are not in the business of providing personal, financial, tax, legal or investment advice and specifically disclaims any liability, loss or risk, which is incurred as a consequence, either directly or indirectly, by the use of any of the information contained in this podcast. Medicine, Marriage and Money, this podcast, and any online tools, if any, do NOT provide ANY legal, accounting, securities, investment, tax or other professional services advice and are not intended to be a substitute for meeting with professional advisors. If legal advice or other expert assistance is required, the services of competent, licensed, and certified professionals should be sought. In addition, Medicine, Marriage and Money does not endorse ANY specific investments, investment strategies, advisors, or financial service firms. 

Today is the official first day of the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Program →  Our welcome call is tonight! If you are reading this and are wishing you would have signed up, please reach out to me now!

Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/group-coaching to sign up! Start arguing with your spouse less and spending more of your time planning vacations and investing in real estate with your love!

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • “The talk” Senior Resident Dr. Rupa gave her future hubby during his first week as an ophthalmology resident and why he was scared of her!
  • How the business consultant they hired to assess the ophthalmology practice influenced their family plan
  • How owning and operating a private practice together every day works for them

 

Marriage: 

  • Their first kiss out of nowhere on New Year’s Eve
  • How they blended of 3 different cultures on their wedding day at a Hawaiian destination wedding
  • How she invests in her marriage

 

Money:

  • Why sitting down to do a 10-year plan helps a couple evaluate what is most important
  • Why she bought her first Chanel purse at age 40
  • Placing her value on her time

 

Social Media

  • How and why she got started on Instagram
  • Why the people you surround yourself will help you rise to the occasion
  • What gave her the motivation and encouragement to create the virtual community she envisioned 



TAKE HOME POINTS FROM RUPA

  1. Being a business owner could be the best financial opportunity for you and your family. Not only does this impact your finances if you set up a smart financial plan, but this also allows you to have a more flexible family life. Keep in mind, these opportunities do not arise at the most comfortable times. 
  2. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. Instead of telling yourself, I can’t do this, you will start saying “Why can’t I do this?”
  3. You will find where you fit. “Never underestimate the power of a community of women who collaborate instead of competing.” The motto of her attending lounge. How this inspires Rupa on a daily basis. 
  4. Hiring a cook and housekeeper is cheaper than a divorce attorney 
  5. Do not let fear deter you from what you can truly achieve



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How honest am I about what I want?
  • Where do I go for inspiration on a daily basis?
  • What are some more systems I can put into place in my household to avoid contention with my spouse?
  • Am I open to uncomfortable opportunities?
  • Do I have faith in myself?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This show is a member of The Doctor Podcast Network

Sponsor: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/contractdiagnostics

call 888-574-5526 or info@contractdiagnostics.com

Enrollment is NOW OPEN for the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Program →  Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/group-coaching to sign up! Spots are limited!!! You do NOT want to miss this opportunity to enhance your marriage and ALL other relationships in your life!

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • When she knew she wanted to be a physician
  • How her time in the spent hospital during residency affected her first marriage
  • Having a spouse who understands being “on-call”

 

Marriage: 

  • Meeting on Match.com and a first date at Starbucks
  • Falling in love with a generous heart
  • Her thoughts when the marriage counselor told her SHE had things to work on

 

Money:

  • How her spouse and her views on money are drastically different
  • The ultimatum she gave her fiance regarding her financial goals

 

Divorce:

  • Why the SAME premarital counseling questions she never completed during her first marriage, she did on her second marriage
  • Getting married in 20s after medical school because “this is what you do”
  • The biggest challenge in her first marriage
  • The difference between focusing on oneself versus the ex during divorce

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM TRINA

  1. When we think we are going to marriage counseling for our spouse (and not ourselves), things will NOT get better. We all have things to work on, so let us focus only on working on what we can control….OURSELVES.  What to find happiness, love, and appreciation in your marriage, find it on your own first.
  2. Trina tells us NOT to ever feel stuck in a terrible relationship. If you can find joy and happiness on your own and feel constantly stuck in a horrible situation, reevaluate your reasons for staying. If the two of you have truly grown apart or were never right for each other in the first place, why stay in an unhealthy environment? Remaining in a terrible relationship (after working on oneself) is not more comfortable than leaving which may seem very uncomfortable. Which hurts more? Which has the potential to add more discomfort….staying in silence, resentment, or venturing out alone into the unknown….into a new world of possibilities. This being said, don’t leave in order to find happiness. Find happiness in yourself first…once you have found that, if the relationship in itself is lacking, give yourself permission to start from scratch
  3. Although divorce is NEVER fun, there is life after divorce! Going through a divorce is like going through a period grief. It is a loss even if YOU are the one who chose to leave, but it can still be so much better on the other end after you allow yourself to heal. Shifting the focus onto healing yourself and away from making ex feel bad or regret their actions or inactions will cause the pain to subside at a more manageable level. Focus on healing. 



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I have self-confidence? Do I look to my partner for confidence?
  • What is the difference between self-confidence and confidence?
  • Where do I go to find happiness? Inside myself or in my relationships?
  • Is it better for me to stay or to go?
  • Do I understand the money mindset of my spouse? If our views on money differ, how can I better understand their story?
  • If and when I ever say goodbye to someone I have been in a relationship with, where is my focus on me or on them? On healing myself or on hurting them?



FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/mrinsurance or contact him at 800-817-4522

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Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to be on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist? →  Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • Meeting for the first time in anatomy lab
  • What it was like searching for a job in the same field
  • Why Sanjay says “It really does get better” for the trainees

Marriage: 

  • How to maintain open lines of communication while keeping judgment out of it
  • Why learning how to fight with each other is key
  • How Sanjay unknowingly spread the bread crumbs for Matt before the proposal

Money:

  • How they maximized their travel dollars as residents
  • How they handled the transition of income from residency to attending
  • The differences between how they grew up and how they viewed their increase in salary

Surrogacy:

  • The “hurry up and wait” process
  • What the interview process for surrogacy looks like
  • Keeping in contact with the surrogate 
  • The mental energy involved in planning to have a surrogate
  • What the relationship with their surrogate might look like after the birth

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM MATT AND SANJAY

  1. We can always improve how we fight with our spouse. What we say and what our spouse hears may be significantly different. So let us slow down the argument. Figure out what our partner is hearing rather than continuing to push our side of the argument.  Sanjay also says to Keep judgment to ourselves and listen to what our partner is hearing. Keep an open mind and approach it from how can I show up as the best version of myself in this situation. 
  2. If you are a trainee listening know that “It really does get better.” All those feelings of inadequacy and questions like “do I belong?” , “why am I doing this?”, and “is this really what I want to do for the rest of my life?” are NORMAL!!!!! A lot of trainees think these thoughts yet may not be expressing them out loud.  I would like to add if you feel this way now, reach out to someone you can confide in.  A mentor or close friend. We are not alone, my friends. 
  3. Sanjay gave us a beautiful example of how we can all learn to be more responsible with money. Observe. Learn from those around you. He watched a close family member make more money than he could ever imagine and then lose it. Sanjay walks away from this with foresight and the determination to start planning for his retirement immediately after training if not during it. He could have chosen to perpetuate this cycle…done what those before him did….but he has decided to take control of his finances and prepare his family  What can you learn from those around you? 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How have I grown with my partner over the years?
  • How has my love for my partner evolved over time?
  • How has being with my partner during the pandemic been better than if I were to have been alone?
  • Am I spending my income on things that bring me joy?

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: Michael at doctorpodcastnetwork.com/mrinsurance or contact him at 800-817-4522

I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to be on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist? →  Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • Eric’s plan to get noticed by Marcy at the bookstore and sharing a microscope
  • How Eric broke his arm during medical school
  • Why returning to medicine after the loss of Andy looked different for each of them

Marriage: 

  • What Andy ate before marriage and why they likely got married so quickly
  • How they supported each other through the grieving
  • Supporting each others’ podcasts 

Money:

  • Why we need to “Thank God for the accountant” and how this helped on Eric’s journey of healing
  • Why we need to all have an emergency fund

Grief:

  • Why accept the feelings during grieving
  • How anger and guilt can become poisons
  • Why forgiveness matters and how forgiving is so powerful 

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE LARSONS

  1. Loss and grief are universal. We all experience some sort of loss and grief at some point in our lives. Whether we are going through the loss of a young child, an older child, a parent, or a spouse, it hurts. It is absolutely painful. It just feels wrong. There is no sense in comparing which experience or which loss is worse. We are all on our own journey and that is okay. We can still go through our own journey alongside the support and companionship of others. No need to compare. Just accept that it is hard. Be aware that this is normal.   
  2. If we cannot forgive others, we have often not forgiven ourselves. 
  3. Sometimes what is right for us is not right for our spouse. Our answers do not have to be everyone’s answers. This is normal. Once you accept this and learn to just be present and supportive in whatever way is needed, the pain may worsen. 
  4. Telling our children they are enough.



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I sincerely ask for forgiveness when it truly matters?
  • How can I forgive myself when I need compassion and grace?
  • How do I process grief?
  • What does my emergency fund look like?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/contractdiagnostics or 888-574-5526

I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!

If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • How she fell forward from her first attending job into something powerful
  • Why she decided to work for Doctors without Borders in Cambodia, Uganda & Kenya

 

Marriage: 

  • How she stays curious in her marriage 
  • Bonding over the shoe size, toastmasters, humanitarian, and a shared burger on the first date
  • On which day of dating he said, “I love you” 

 

Money:

  • Fertility costs and how you never know how many years you will need to plan into the fertility journey
  • Why she cares about learning the finances although her hubby does most of the spreadsheets
  • How her real estate interests have evolved 

 

Fertility:

  • Their brief separation because of different child/baby wants
  • Her journey through multiple miscarriages, IUI, IVF,
  • What it means to “have my own back” during her fertility journey
  • Discovering physician empowerment
  • What moving through pain looks like to Maneesha  

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR MANEESHA AHLUWALIA

  1. Being excited about pregnancy does not make the pain any worse during a miscarriage. It is still painful. It was always going to be as painful. Allowing the emotion of excitement during the initial phases of the pregnancy journey does make it MORE painful than it would have otherwise been without the excitement. Avoiding the pain forever is impossible. Feeling the pain and moving through the pain is the goal.
  2. We are not victims of what happens in life. Every decision, every path, every emotion we experience is a choice. Doctors may say funny things. Friends may say odd things. Nurses, family, and coworkers may say strange things. They often just want to say something, but do not know what to say? Why? Because everyone needs to hear different things. So, it does not matter what people say. Do not be a victim of the words or actions of others. We can choose how we interpret the words of others. We have the power to choose what to hear. 
  3. When someone in our life may be experiencing miscarriage, fertility issues, or child loss, these are things we can say: I am here for you. I am listening to you. You get to think what you are thinking. You get to feel what you are feeling. We can talk about it or we do not need talk about it.



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How do I stay curious in my marriage or relationship?
  • How can I stop being a victim of other people’s words? 
  • Am I telling myself that I am doing enough today?
  • How can I be more comfortable in my own skin today?
  • Do I fear getting too excited in my journey because I fear disappointment and failure? 

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

 

SPONSOR: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/larrykeller

I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • Working three jobs before medical school 
  • Her love-hate relationship with medicine 
  • Avoiding asking questions about maternity leave on the job trail.

Marriage: 

  • How she and Dan continued to choose each other over and over again
  • How we can create change for the better in medicine
  • Accepting their differences 

Money:

  • Sharing money since they were children
  • What they consider a shared money mentality
  • Treating money as a tool
  • Being in sync on what is financially responsible and having open communication
  • How she felt about spending money on IVF, which never comes with guaranteed results. 

Fertility:

  • Forgiving medicine and her career path during fertility challenges 
  • When these conversations do not happen during medical education
  • Kate’s initial confusion when Dan’s thoughts were different from hers during her roller coaster of emotions  

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. KATE HAPPOCK

  1. How to create change in medicine. Especially when it comes to maternity leave, breastfeeding, parental obligations, work-life integration…. Starts with small conversations and supporting our colleagues. Let us be the cheerleader for our fellow physicians. Let us build each other up. Let us check on each other. Let us NOT engage in conversations that focus on degrading each other as those rarely build anything construction and definitely do not help our patients or health care in general If it is the change we want, regardless if it is for our patients, for our staff, or for our fellow physician colleagues, we can start by focusing on all the small things we can do each day. Daily conversations, compassion, and support. 
  2. Our worth as physicians is not tied to how many hours we work each day or how many days a week we spend in the hospital or in the clinic. We are ALL high achievers, so stop judging, stop shaming, and start valuing each minute, each moment we care for patients, for ourselves, our for our families. 
  3. When our spouse has different feelings from us about any life circumstance, this does NOT minimize ours and vice versa. We are each allowed to have our own thoughts about everything. We are each on our own journey. I distinctly remember the first year Victor and I were trying to get pregnant and each time I got my period I would cry and he would not and I honestly did NOT understand how he was not in pain and sadness like I was. I did not understand then what now. I truly appreciate Dr. Hoppock’s wisdom when it comes to allowing these differences in emotions that will inevitably arrive along the journey of life.  

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Am I choosing love every day?
  • How do I value my worth as a physician?
  • How can I accept the differences between my experience and my spouse’s experiences during the same journey?  
  • How do I define the story of my life?
  • How can I have more self-compassion for myself? 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Website: https://www.fertilityfound.com/
  • Facebook: @FertilityFound
  • Instagram: @fertilityfound
  • Email: kate@fertilityfound.com

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: www.doctorpodcastnetwork.com/medevolve

I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions or suggestions!

If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • The first time teachers did not seem to care about the students learning
  • Why the Dean of her Medical school supported her pregnancy and child leave during medical school
  • Meeting her future spouse in medical school as she turned pages for a concert pianist
  • Her surprise when she was not as satisfied in her physician career as she had expected
  • Why she and her hubby each took a year off from medical school

Marriage: 

  • Why the foundation of their relationship is devotion to personal growth
  • How sharing your truth changes your marriage
  • How falling in love can look different
  • How having divorced parents initially influenced how she thought about the trajectory of her marriage

Money:

  • Moving to rural Kansas for two years to get ahead financially

Intimacy:

  • Why it is important to remember what drew you to your spouse

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. ALEXANDRA STOCKWELL

  1. Every interaction or non-interaction between our spouse and us is either moving us towards connection or driving us away from connection. Enhance every moment in order to foster more love and this will result in a more intimate relationship.
  2. Be authentic. Hiding or walking on eggshells does not lead to connection. Figure out a way to regain friendship and love and if WE cannot do this on our own, maybe it is time to consider seeking help. 
  3. Discovering what the foundation of our relationship with our spouse is may draw us closer to them and foster more connection. What is it? For Dr. Stockwell, she took us on her journey of their devotion to each other’s personal growth. Imagine how our relationship could enter the next level if we invited this concept into our lives and relationships.

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What drew me to my spouse or my partner?
  • What bothers me about my spouse and how can I transform my bother to something more helpful for our relationship?
  • How can I bring up difficult conversations in a non-threatening way?
  • How can I create more emotional intimacy in my relationship?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: http://www.doctorpodcastnetwork.com/resolve

I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions or suggestions!

If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

  • Her transition from OB/GYN residency to Internal Medicine residency
  • Her unicorn career seeing 28 patients a day for 5 years for only gynecologic concerns
  • Common issues MeLanie saw as an internist specializing in pelvic pain

Marriage: 

  • Why the words “Eugene” and “rocket scientist” sparked her interest while on-line dating 
  • The devotion MeLanie’s future husband showered upon her only a month after meeting
  • Why she knew he was the one after 3 months and wanted him to propose after 6 months of dating

Money:

  • The financial discussion between her and her hubby when she transitioned from Internal Medicine Physician to Sex Counselor 

Sex:

  • How the mind-body connection affects sex
  • How to communicate in bed
  • Why acknowledging a partner’s emotions are key
  • Why assuming a spouse has the best intentions works 
  • What natural avoidance is
  • Why pelvic pain may cause guilt, shame, & confusion 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. MELANIE MODJOROS

  1. Take responsibility for every emotion regarding love and intimacy. We have the power to make things better or worse. If we feel stuck and are not actively working towards making things, better, chances are they may be getting worse. Let us not be afraid to talk openly about our feelings with our partner using I statements while fully clothed. This may be hard and uncomfortable and that is okay. If unsure where to start, seek help from a professional.
  2. The biggest determining factor for wanting to have sex again is the feelings we have at the end of the last sexual encounter.
  3. People always say, “Sex was so easy when we were young and it was never scheduled.”, the truth is, it usually WAS scheduled, we just didn’t think of it that way because the words “SEX DATE” were not on our google calendar. We usually just got dolled up or manned up, shaved our legs or face, and went out on a Friday night or Saturday night date! It is OKAY to schedule sex….call it anything….cocktail night, cuddle night, snuggle puppy party time as one of my dear friends calls it.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I take responsibility for my feelings?
  • Do I communicate what I want in bed and why?
  • Do I assume my partner has the best intentions at heart?
  • Do I believe in any sex myths such as “Men always want sex” or “A man’s erection equals his attraction to me?” If so, why?
  • Would scheduling sex be helpful for my marriage?
  • Do I enjoy sex?
  • Does my spouse enjoy sex?
  • How can we enhance our sex life?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: https://www.sexualhealthconsultants.com/

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER ON THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • Why she did not want to marry a surgeon
  • Being told in urology residency “Women are complicated”
  • Why she prefers the pelvis over the neck

Marriage: 

  • Meeting while he was in Armenia and she was in Uganda
  • He is her rock and her calm
  • How love languages can help any relationship

Money:

  • Having quarterly meetings about finance 
  • Her scarcity mindset and his abundance mindset
  • What her financial splurge are

Sex Myths:

  • T or F: Most of sex-education is fear-based
  • T or F: Sex is supposed to be easy.
  • T or F: Why spontaneous desire does not just happen
  • T or F: There is normal sexual desire.
  • T or F: The answer to good sex life is a good glass of wine

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM KELLY

  1. No one can give you more sexual desire. This comes from within. Discovering your limiting beliefs.
  2. Don’t treat your spouse like you treat your employees (if you are a surgeon or demanding of your employees)
  3. Don’t try to change your spouse. The love that can be created from loving them exactly the way they are is infinite.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Is sex easy for us? 
  • Am I having bad sex?
  • Do I enjoy sex?
  • Do I try to change my spouse?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Going back to work as a pediatric emergency physician after Asher’s death
  • What made RoseAnn a more empathetic physician
  • Realizing the Post-traumatic stress at work

Marriage: 

  • Not dependent or independent. Children of God. When 2 become one flesh.
  • Meeting in a dingy night club
  • Why RoseAnn tried to cancel their first date
  • RoseAnn’s qualifications before John could propose
  • How RoseAnn almost “destroyed” her own proposal
  • How bedrest was romantic
  • Faith as the cornerstone of marriage

Asher:

  • How having children makes you realize you are no longer in control
  • Being in complete shock after the findings of Asher’s 20-week ultrasound
  • How Asher deepened their faith and strengthened their relationship
  • The overwhelming sense of peace in the Scheller house
  • How silence can be hurtful

Grieving:

  • Never stop praying
  • Feeling defeated and abandoned, yet knowing, “All I know is you exist”
  • Realizing that feeling debilitated for days is okay 

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE SCHELLERS

  1. If you have faith, there will be no suffering without purpose.
  2. Worry only takes away from the minutes you have in the present time. When we spend our time worrying or anxious over whatever small or huge thing we are going through in life, it is important to remember, we are choosing worry over any other emotion which could be available to us in that moment. 
  3. Be good to yourself. Be good to the people around you. It’s Grace during times of suffering and difficulty that is so important.  It’s a season. It will not last forever.
  4. Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Said like a TURE Pediatric Emergency Physician. If you plan for the worst, you can handle ANYTHING. Yet if you hope for the BEST, you always maintain the ability to keep your mind somewhere peaceful. 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • When it comes to raising or caring for my children, how control am I?
  • What could I be choosing to do with my mental space, instead of worrying?
  • Do I ask for space when I need it? How can I do this more often?
  • What helps me get through difficult times? Is it faith, love, my spouse, a schedule?
  • When I am in uncomfortable situations, particularly one of suffering or pain for someone else, how can I start the dialogue?
  • Can I see the joy through my suffering? 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • From Pediatric Radiologist to Sex Coach and Sexual Counselor 
  • The importance of providing medical students and residents with the skill-set to prevent burnout as you are recruiting them into medicine
  • How she grew into the doctor she wanted to become during residency instead of just pushing through it 

Relationship: 

  • Taking 100% responsibility for your sex life. When you don’t do this, you will just take your old and current problems to your next relationship.
  • Keys to co-parenting outside of an intimate relationship
  • Why using more “I” statements instead of accusatory statements

Sex:

  • Whose responsibility is it anyway
  • What does it really mean to take 100% responsibility
  • What is to-do list sex
  • The cost of not addressing your sexual fears
  • How a feeling is the worst thing that can happen
  • What is choreplay

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Sonia Wright 

  1. Sexual intimacy is your responsibility. Not your partner’s responsibility.
  2. Get clear on what is important to you and your partner. You don’t have to suffer in silence. If you are, ask yourself what that is costing you.
  3. Sex is supposed to be fun! You get to define sexual intimacy the way you want it in your life! 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Am I suffering in silence? What is this costing me right now?
  • Do I have to-do list sex or for-me sex?
  • Am I comfortable having uncomfortable conversations with my partner?
  • What do I want the sexual energy in my relationship to look like?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Her premed prerequisites and change in plans after advice from her physician hubby
  • Her thoughts about dating a medical student, resident, and attending
  • Her journey as a parent of a 10 week-old baby diagnosed with a hepatic tumor

Marriage: 

  • How she met her anesthesiologist hubby
  • Their belief in each other and unwavering support 
  • Why working through disagreements may be the most beneficial choice

Money:

  • How they decide how much to donate to which charities
  • The smartest financial (and non-financial) decision she had ever made 
  • How the “soft space” allows her to take big risks for big rewards

Real Estate: 

  • How the pandemic has affected her decisions as a multifamily investor
  • Pricing changes in real estate during the pandemic
  • Why relationships are key in the success of a real estate investor 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM VEENA 

  1. Believing and supporting your spouse allows them to believe even more in themselves and this is what we want. We want to watch our spouse to be successful in whatever that means to them. 
  2. Find a partner that is good at something you are not good at so that you can collaborate and grow.
  3. Her businesses are successful because she focuses on the relationship side of her business more than anything else. She doesn’t mind giving up a little bit today to be successful in the future. We can all win as a team. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Is my spouse my best friend?
  • Do we have or need a check in amount for spending on frivolous things?
  • Do I have donation rituals?
  • Why do I choose to be married to my spouse everyday?
  • Am I a soft space for my partner to land?
  • Do I collaborate or compete?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • How we met at orientation, during the first day of internship
  • What a Radiation Oncologist does
  • The difference between protons and X-rays
  • Kate’s strict rules for Victor during her 3-month radiology board preparation

Marriage: 

  • Falling in love at first sight and then again 4 years later
  • Our proposal story at Disney
  • How we dealt with losing an au pair and finding the perfect nanny during the pandemic

Money:

  • How we won one year of free frozen yogurt
  • Why Victor became interested in learning about finances

Extra:

  • How coaching changed Victor’s life
  • Why defining marriage, career and financial goals are so important 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Her Psychiatrist perspective on life coaches Tony Robbins and Brooke Castillo

Marriage: 

  • Meeting and bonding over their three German Shepherds
  • How to take a relationship to the next level
  • Why her hubby’s needs are her needs
  • The importance of knowing that relationships will ebb and flow 

Money:

  • How she became financially free before the end of residency
  • How they purchased her engagement ring without debt
  • Why Elaine became her hubby’s first investor
  • How they teach their children to value family and money

Extra:

  • How they became accidental landlords
  • How fear and excitement can feel similar in your body.
  • How they tackle their big goals together

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Stageberg

  1. Make your spouse’s needs your needs. If this happens both ways, you can take your relationship to the next level. 
  2. Growing your entrepreneurial side is usually not comfortable the first or second time you do it. If you are thinking about becoming a landlord or investing in something you have never invested in before, know that it is NORMAL to NOT be comfortable.
  3. Even if there is suffering and even when there is hurt, commit to do it together. 
  4. Outsourcing is so important! Anything that is not each other, their children, medicine, or their business, they outsource. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Are my partner’s needs my needs?
  • How much of my life could change or could have changed in one second? And how much gratitude do I have for what I have right now?
  • Do I value security or freedom more? Does my spouse value security or freedom more? If this is different for us, how can we allow these to compliment each other?
  • Do I believe that having a nanny means someone else is raising my children? 
  • Do I believe having help at home makes one snooty?
  • How can I create the home environment I want?

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Finding love at the hospital

Marriage: 

  • Knowing who the most important person in your life is
  • What made Leti different from every other girl
  • “Stacking” and how criticism can destroy a relationship
  • What people tend to overvalue and undervalue in a relationship
  • How what you say in your head affects your relationship
  • The three “C”s and three “U”s
  • How expectations can get you into trouble
  • The 90 Days of Serving without any expectations belief 
  • How to treat your marriage like a thriving business

Money:

  • Why divorce was her smartest financial decision
  • How starting with the outcome in mind makes every decision easy
  • How having a business mission statement makes money
  • The importance of having mutual money goals

Confidence/Extra:

  • Why confidence attracted them to each other 
  • What being in a beautiful state means
  • Why bing creative and caring is so important
  • What priming is  
  • Constantly moving forward even when feeling terrified
  • Self-confidence comes from doing hard things
  • Turning “I Can’t” to “How can I?”
  • The meaning you give everything that happens in your life

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Drs. Leti & Kenji

  1. Become aware of the manual you have for our spouse. 
  2. Marriage can be easy, yet you can always strive to get better.
  3. Find 3 days a year you can spend with only your spouse to work only on the marriage. Figure out where you want the relationship to go and what you want to work on.
  4. Be aware of the three “C”s of masculine energy: Control, Criticism, Closed. And the three “U”s of feminine energy: Unseen, Unsafe, and “Ununderstood”.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I respect my spouse’s individuality?
  • Am I aware of the manual I have for my spouse?
  • Who do I make a priority in my life?
  • Do I enjoy telling the story of how I met my spouse?
  • Do I assume my spouse will always be there? Do I take them for granted? If so, how is this affecting our relationship?
  • Where do I want my relationship to go in 2021?

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  • Instagram: @semiretiredmd

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • How do decrease burnout in medicine

Marriage: 

  • Bonding over the loss of family members and friends
  • How he spoke about other women and what that meant to Latifat
  • The perfect proposal before her graduation from medical school
  • Their long distance relationship

Money:

  • Why a live-in Granny Nanny is worth every penny
  • The guidelines of the post bedtime money dates
  • The most expensive thing to them

Parenting:

  • Whoever wakes up first, gets in trouble.
  • “Mommy teaches people how to use money for good.”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE AKINTADES

  1. Keep things simple. Schedule a regular time and place to meet for a weekly date so that you don’t have to think about anything else except being with your hunny. 
  2. Go on money dates with guidelines, curiosity and no judgement. 
  3. Money has no emotions. Money only has the emotions you give it.
  4. Relationships…are NOT something that happen, they are something that is CREATED. 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Am I emotional about money?
  • Do I think of purchases or debt as good or bad or as increasing or decreasing my net worth and how does this subtle change affect my mindset?
  • Do I approach my student loans from a place of gratitude or a place of fear? Do I demonize my medical school loans?
  • Do I pay my debt down from a place of scarcity or a place of abundance? How would this make a difference?
  • Do I take calculated risks?

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • The downsides and upsides of not being in a Dermatology practice 
  • Thinking about the experience from the patient perspective
  • Changing her thought from “I cannot find a job because of this pandemic” to “How can I still make money although I cannot get a job as a Dermatologist during the pandemic” 

Marriage: 

  • Your partner is not responsible for your happiness
  •  
  • After graduating residency, she had dates lined up before she even moved to New York
  • Her “speed dating” journey
  • The magic lightning bolt
  • What is the rush to know the answer?

Money:

  • Why being engaged for several years has been a financial decision
  • How she feels about being the breadwiner
  • How her thoughts about what income her spouse should make have evolved
  • Why utilizing the money you make as physician is your superpower

Extra:

  • Allowing yourself to be a beginner
  • Living your dream
  • Using your superpower

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. BONNIE KOO

  1. Always pay yourself first!!!! 
  2. As a physician entrepreneur (or not), KNOW, you don’t have to figure it all out yourself. Your superpower is the ability to hire help!
  3. Feeling anxious about money has NOTHING to do with how much money you have in your bank account or investment account.
  4. The key to happiness is knowing you will ALWAYS BE OKAY because YOU will ALWAYS have your back! 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I believe I can just figure it all out myself?
  • Am I in a rush to find out answers in my life? Why?
  • Do I feel anxious or stressed about money? If so, when will this change?
  • How can I make more money or make my money work for me?
  • Do I allow myself to be a beginner when trying new things or adventures?
  • Am I meant for something more?

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  • Facebook: WealthyMomMD
  • Instagram: @wealthyMomMD

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Falling in love the first few months of medical school
  • How the shift from medical school to education Masters and PhD helped them grow together 
  • Remembering why he went into medicine and plastic surgery

Marriage: 

  • Meeting someone who pushes and challenges the other person
  • When he took an interest in what she loved
  • How they act as each other accountability partners

Money:

  • The evolution away from a fearful relationship with finances
  • The realization they were spending their paychecks each month 
  • Selenid’s original thoughts about real estate investing 
  • The smartest financial decision they ever made

Mindset:

  • Why are you telling yourself that story?
  • The TWO steps of any big adventure
  • Embracing your fears

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM JORDAN AND SELENID

  1. So when it comes to you and your spouse, do not hesitate to prioritize each other’s goals and passions! It will only strengthen your marriage.
  2. When your spouse comes to you with what you think is a crazy idea (i.e. investing in RE or running an Airbnb in your own home), do you say “Are you crazy” or do you say “Tell me more”. Jordan and Selenid suggest trying out the latter for loving reasons:) Try it out, friends. Get curious. Unless you are wanting severe consequences, go ahead and get curious before crushing dreams and killing the sparks. 
  3. Having 1, 5, and 10-year goals helps your marriage and your mindset. MINDSET is SO IMPORTANT. Why are you telling yourself that story?? Remember, this is not a natural question for most of us…so please please work on asking yourself this question daily…about all your thoughts!!! I promise. This will be a game-changer. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What type of relationship do I have with my paycheck?
  • Do I prioritize my spouse’s interests and passions as much as my own or more?
  • Do I believe having or wanting money makes me selfish?
  • Am I doing things I think I cannot do??? If not, when can I start?
  • What is the smartest financial decision I plan to make this year?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • The shock, sadness, and action created after a visit to her OB/GYN at the age of 35

Marriage: 

  • How to allow your spouse to grow into the best version of themselves
  • Why unconditional love is NOT a condition
  • How her traumatic bicycle accident affected her marriage
  • Why it only takes ONE person to make your relationship better

Money:

  • Why they aggressively paid down their debt and borrowed all the baby things
  • What dipping her toes into real estate looks like
  • Her hubby’s thoughts of the $297 boxes she received in the mail

Mantra:

“There will be no bad days.”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM SUNNY

  1. Recognize what you can control and recognize what you cannot control. Chances are if you are suffering in your relationship, so is your partner…so the question becomes…how do you decrease your own suffering? 
  2. Am I arguing with reality….Am I agonizing….ruminating or regretting a part of my past or present instead of being grateful for your present  What do I already have that I take for granted? 
  3. How am I trying to change my spouse? Maybe nothing major…but something small. And in doing so…am I stealing my spouse’s joy? 
  4. It only takes one person to make the relationship better.

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • If my spouse was not here at this moment, how would I find a way?
  • When it gets ugly…when the times get tough….because it will, how will I be here for my spouse, for me, and for us?
  • What if today was the last day I had on earth? How would I spend it? What would I say or do with my spouse? What would I be grateful for?
  • What am I bringing to my marriage?
  • Is my happiness dependent on my spouse filling my cup?

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • How Ni-Cheng’s cancer diagnosis during fellowship affected her relationship with medicine
  • How taking a year off medicine helped her heal internally and externally
  • How to thrive in medicine
  • How she returned to medicine after changing her relationship with herself

Marriage 

  • Meeting her hubby in 8th grade at the East Asian Volleyball circuit
  • Her first impression of her hubby and his Red Honda Del Sol
  • When her hubby knew Ni-Cheng was the one
  • How her hubby expressed his love to her through “car talk”
  • The devotion he showed while driving her to and from every single chemo appointment

Money:

  • The balance of buying nice things and delayed gratification
  • Taking deep breaths before making a purchase
  • Need is a subjective word

Mindfulness:

  • Embody what you teach
  • Reframing difficult experiences as opportunities for learning
  • Paying attention on purpose to the present moment at anytime or anywhere
  • Breath, Attend, and Transition to more skillful action

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Ni-Cheng Liang

  1. Provide unconditional support for your spouse’s hobbies and interests regardless of how random they are. Investing in each other in a way that provides space and unconditional love will pay off in the end. 
  2. You owe it to yourself and to your spouse to prioritize taking care of yourself so that you can show up authentically and be fully present for your loved ones and patients. 
  3. Mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment at any time or anywhere. You can even do it now! Notice your breath, name what you are feeling, notice your thoughts and  transition to greater skillful action as opposed to reaction. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I work on my relationship with myself so that I can thrive in medicine?
  • How is uncertainty, fear, and anxiety affecting the care of my patients? 
  • Can I make my profession of love a game?
  • How do I show myself compassion?
  • How can I reframe my thoughts so that difficult experiences become learning opportunities?

 

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  • Website: https://www.ncliangmd.com/
  • Facebook: Ni-Cheng Liang
  • Instagram: @ncliangmd
  • Twitter: drnichengliang
  • YoutTube: Awaken Breath 

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Her resistance to dating the chief radiology resident 
  • Her thoughts on the quantity over quality shift at her practice
  • When her arms became numb during breast biopsies

Marriage: 

  • Friendship as the cornerstone of a marriage
  • Understanding how someone needs to be loved
  • Supporting your partner as they grow although you may not be growing in the same way
  • How her husband supports her yoga journey without actually doing yoga with her

Money:

  • Why being a saver and investor in residency helped her make the decision to leave medicine
  • Their two accounts; the investment account and the fun account
  • The desire to never spend more than they had
  • The Karma check she received the day after signing up for yoga therapy school

Yoga Therapy:

  • Her initial thoughts about how weird yogis were
  • How her interest in yoga therapy began
  • How neurophysiology can be controlled by evidence-based yoga practices
  • How to find peace in chaos
  • Why she does not associate yoga with fitness

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM ROBYN

  1. Find gratitude before you even get out of bed. 
  2. BREATHE….there is a reason why people tell us to breathe when we are stressed out. Breaths can elevate your mood, calm you down, Warm you, and cool you
  3. We invest and save because our DREAM job NOW….may NOT be our DREAM job in 15 years.
  4. It is not having what you want, it is wanting what you have.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Is stress causing my physical ailments? If so, how can I learn how to respond instead of reacting to my stress?
  • How can I find gratitude before I even get out of bed in the morning?
  • Do I have what I want or want what I have?
  • Do I feel stuck in my job? If so, why am I choosing to feel this way?
  • How can I approach my day in a more calm way although everything around me maybe chaos?

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Ali & Mark’s conversation on the first day of medical school
  • Assumptions people make when you are married to a  psychiatrist and then the reality

Marriage: 

  • Mark’s answer to Ali’s screening question “What sport did I play in high school?”
  • How independent spousal goals coexist inside the big common marriage goal
  • Why awareness is key when the relationship is not being prioritized  

Money:

  • How coming from similar giving families contributes to their shared money mindset 
  • Why the joint Novitsky bank account made sense before marriage
  • What Ali hopes to achieve by investing in a business coach

Physician Entrepreneur:

  • How Mark’s encouragement creates a greater sense of Ali’s belief in herself
  • The flexibility of having one’s own business
  • The “coach high” every time a client has a breakthrough
  • Why her youngest child thinks she is a youtube star
  • How actions HUGELY influence our children…we are their HEROES…they see us and want to do what we do!!!

 TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Ali & MARK

  1. Create a space that lends to couple engagement.
  2. Train your children to respect Parent time! 
  3. Budget for Extras.
  4. The moment you commit to your own health, your confidence will soar. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Why are our common goals? And what are your independent goals inside our bigger common goal?
  • Have I trained my children to be respectful of my “me time”
  • How is my life serving as an example for my children or nieces or nephews?
  • How am I creating an exciting and trusting environment for our relationship?
  • How am I taking care of my body?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Her rules on dating a medical school classmate and why this changed
  • Expectations women physicians place on themselves

Marriage: 

  • The emotional vending machine
  • How to find time for your spouse during training 
  • The transition to parenthood and recruiting help

Money:

  • How a toilet cleaning wand brought awareness of her money scarcity
  • Why money means freedom
  • How you can afford anything, but not everything

Extra:

  • How to differentiate what is happening from what we think is happening
  • Why she rarely if ever struggles with Mom guilt

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DEVON

  1. Your spouse is NOT an Emotional Vending Machine.   
  2. When you have money, you have freedom.
  3. Next time you think “I just want to live life on your own terms”, recognize that you already are! Own it!

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I place expectations upon myself because I think others are expecting things of me?
  • Do I treat my spouse like an emotional vending machine?
  • What are things I spend money on that truly bring me joy?
  • What do I need for myself to be the best and most loving spouse and mother?
  • How am I Iiving life on my own terms?

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Her views on being part-time in medicine 
  • Why a pause is needed for health care professionals
  • How “Physicians Living Intentionally” reenergizes  

Marriage:

  • How they first met and then when they reconnected 9 years later 
  • Why timing is everything
  • Infatuation and what she saw flash through her head during a car accident 

Money:

  1. How she takes charge of the finances  
  2. What percentages of their income they save and spend
  3. The smartest financial decision she has ever made in her life

The Permission: 

  • How to define the gap in a relationship
  • How to know when to leave a nontoxic relationship
  • When she asked herself “Is this my happily ever after?”
  • Why she gave herself permission

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM FARYAL

  1. Why the smartest decision you may ever make in your life could potentially be marrying your spouse. And not for superficial reasons like income…
  2. Sometimes we may find our “prince charming’ but may not be in the right emotional state to be with them at that time. Some things….perhaps even the BEST things take time.
  3. Being intentional about spending quality time with your spouse, does not mean you have to like or do the same things together all the time. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I intentionally incorporate time with my spouse into my daily schedule?
  • Am I giving myself permission to be happy? 
  • Am I giving myself permission to recharge?
  • How can I 100% support my spouse in their interests although they may not be the same as mine? 

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Facebook: Physicians Living Intentionally

Instagram: @writeyourlastchapter

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Why a California girl would move to India for medical school after high school 
  • Why a very successful pediatrician took a 3.5-year maternity leave
  • How Integrative medicine and mindfulness can better serve our patients

Marriage: 

  • How coaching can be life-saving
  • The two most common reasons couples argue 
  • When she realized she could not change him and, instead, changed herself…and then he noticed

Money:

  • Her method for demonstrating the concepts of saving, spending, and donating to young children
  • How she teaches her 2nd grader to diversify while investing 

Parenting:

  • The false perception that a Nanny can raise your kids
  • Learning to value herself after years of motherhood and exhaustion
  • How she mindfully parents through the pandemic
  • Why her children are no longer the center of her household
  • When she no longer strives to be the “Perfect Parent”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM PAYAL

  1. People who are happy with their work do it better! 
  2. Set boundaries for yourself because you cannot care for your children if you are running on empty. When you are not in a good mindset they will notice!
  3. Although you may disagree with your spouse at the moment it is important to show respect, especially if in front of children. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How do I value myself as a person apart from my role as a parent or spouse?
  • How can I integrate mindfulness into my parenting or doctoring? How can I focus on the moment without worrying about the past or the future?
  • What boundary or goal can I set today that will help me prioritize myself and, in turn, my spouse and family?

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Website: mdthemindfuldoctor.com

Facebook: @MDTheMindfulDoctor

Instagram: mdthemindfuldoctor

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine

  • How she fell in love with her hubby over cadavers in the anatomy lab
  • Her struggle with inadequacy for the FIRST time
  • Why medical school sets the stage for intimacy and life-long friendships 

Marriage

  • Why every couple needs to discuss priorities before marriage 
  • How to survive hurricanes, pandemics, and all hard situations
  • The importance of engaging children in conversations about work, finances, and the world 

Money

  • How they navigate never being on the same financial page
  • Why all women need an individual spending account
  • How to prepare for financial collapse 

Culture: 

  • The extra involved in being a woman of color
  • Being labeled “the smart little black girl”
  • The unique burden and privilege of being a person of color 
  • How to change the world
  • The importance of staying human and encouraging humanity in others

TAKE HOME POINTS

  1. When the going gets tough, it may be easier to walk away, so revisiting the shared values and discussing how priorities align can be grounding, humbling, and a way to continue loving. 
  2. We may never truly be on the same page with our spouse. Although we have similar goals, we have to constantly refocus, and redefine our needs and desires. 
  3. Welcome the positive energy and love in your life and shut out the toxicity.
  4. Use the unique privileges you were given. Stand up for your friends, colleagues, and trainees of COLOR. Go out of your way to engage in discussions that include and do not divide. 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  1. What do I want to be when I grow up?
  2. If something happened to my spouse, would I know how to access our financial accounts and pay our bills?
  3. How can I encourage wellness amongst my peers and myself?
  4. How can I change the world today as the powerful human being that I am?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

When Peter realized he was playing the “victim of all the stuff” as a physician

How he decided he was going to take his life back and continue to practice medicine on his terms

Marriage: 

His version of how he met and fell in love with his wife, Vicki Chan Kim (listen to episode #2 for her version)

The proposal story (all the pressure!!!!)

When he schedules couple time with Vicki

Why your problems are NOT unique 

How he navigated their parents’ disapproval of his relationship with Vicki

Money:

His credit card debt history and why he USED to call himself the “King of late fees”

How Vicki was one of Peter’s first financial coaches and the “foreign concepts” she taught him

Why they designated “no guilt” spending accounts

What his marriage is worth

Confidence:

The importance of a coach

His miracle morning

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM PETER

  1. Be with someone who can handle the REAL YOU and in return accept your spouse for the REAL THEM. We are all trying to do the best we can with what we have. Be understanding.
  2. Your problems are not that unique.
  3. Build up habits and rituals for a successful marriage the same way you would build up habits and rituals for a healthy you.
  4. Spend time daily in gratitude
  5. Immersion is KEY.  Your life, goals, and marriage are a work in progress.

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: passiveincomemd.com

Facebook: Peter Kim (Passive Income MD)

Instagram: passiveincomemd

Twitter: passiveincomemd

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

What type of marriage do I want?

What habits can I form to strengthen my marriage skills?

Which hours of which days each week can I dedicate to spending with my spouse and only my spouse?

How will I practice accepting and loving my spouse exactly as they are?

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Relationship:

  • Why opposites attract (I know, so cliche)
  • How she met her musician hubby
  • The proposal story
  • How they deal with their income disparity

Money:

  • How her and her hubby’s spending style is part of their mission
  • Why she became interested in personal finance
  • Why she hides her money (check out her blog called “Five ways to reverse your budget”)
  • Importance of diversification
  • The worst way to tell your spouse how much money you dropped on _____.

Confidence:

  • Imposter Syndrome is normal as confidence grows
  • Learning as a lifelong process
  • Do hard things because life is supposed hard
  • Surround yourself with inspirational people

THEN SHE FLIPS THE INTERVIEW ON ME!!!!!

I briefly talk on:

  • My childhood money jars
  • Tax codes as they change based on who is in office (GO VOTE!!!!)
  • Victor’s work schedule

Dr. Hamilton’s NEW Book: “Save Lives, Enjoy Your Own: Finding Your Place in Medicine”

 

  • Student or trainee, you will get a free sponsored copy at TiredSuerhero.com/join-the-launch
  • If you are anyone else, go to her blog, https://tiredsuperheroine.com/ to purchase an autographed copy
  • Or order on amazon for fastest delivery (if you don’t care about having the signed edition)

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Dr. Barbara Hamilton

Website: https://tiredsuperheroine.com/

Facebook Group: Tired Superheroines (for women in male dominated fields)

Instagram: @tiredsuperheroine

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  1. How is my spending style part of my mission?
  2. How can I set up systems to hide my money so that I do not spend it all?
  3. Have I ever experienced imposter syndrome, and do I blame myself for it or do I accept it as normal?
  4. How can I surround myself with more inspirational people in order to grow everyday?

As a public figure and influencer, people often ask Dr. Tiffany Moon, how she does it all, and how she looks so good doing it. So what are her secrets?

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Children, Career & Home:

Division of labor in her home in regards to childcare and household duties.

Importance of the once a week “not so sexy” couple meeting.

Importance of being on the same “career page” as a couple.

Relationship:

How Tiffany met her hubby, Daniel Moon.

The proposal story.

Why she fell in love and why she is still in love.

Money:

How spending is discussed by her and her hubby.

The investing competition between her and Daniel.

Confidence: 

Comparing and shaming on social media.

Why we need to give each other grace and love.

Seeing for the best in everyone. 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: https://www.tiffanymoonmd.com/

Facebook: Tiffany Moon, MD

Instagram: @tiffanymoonmd

Tiktok: @tiffanymoonmd

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

How can I make saving and investing a friendly competition with myself or with my spouse?

How can comparing myself to others I see on social media empower me instead of get me down?

How can I give more grace and love to those inside and outside of my home.

How We Designed Our Life as a Physician Couple:
 
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:
 
Children:

How her children made her rethink her career and life

How she and her husband designed systems at home for a successful family life

Benefits of a live-in Nanny
 
Relationship:

How Vicki met her hubby, Peter Kim

Her first impression of Peter and their first date

Why she fell in love and why she is still in love

Navigating their relationship as a dual physician couple

How she invests in her marriage
 
Money:

The smartest financial decision she ever made

How they make financial decisions together
 
Confidence:   

How she has so much confidence

How she does it all

Her thoughts on social media
 
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Facebook: Vicki Chan Kim

Instagram: @vickichanmd

Tiktok: @vickichanmd
 
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

What type of life do you want?

What investments are you making in your marriage?

How can you design your life to promote more successful relationships with your children and your spouse?
Released: Sep 14, 2020

What does marital interdependence mean to you and what does it take to achieve it and maintain it? In other words, what makes a successful marriage and how does it last?

First let’s talk about what does not make a successful marriage.

Blame

Shame

Dependency

Relationships are not an emotional vending machine. We cannot pick and choose what we want our partner to feed us and how this will make us feel. If we want to be happy, we must first CHOOSE to be happy.

If we aim to mold or change our partner, we set ourselves up for relationship havoc.

So what makes a successful marriage?

A relationship requires trust, individual happiness and shared goals.

Your spouse’s only job is to be loved by you. Drop the expectations. Throw away the manual and exist from a place of love and support.

Love is not a fairytale or the perfect instagram photo. Love is failing and failing again and continuing to communicate, listen and hold space. Love is real life. Love has ups and downs and is rarely if ever 50/50.

Relationships take time, attention and patience. Not everyday or every moment will be magical, but everyday does have the potential to provide growth and bonding as long as you vow to unconditionally love.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • What makes a successful marriage
  • How highly successful couples make their relationship work
  • Why feeling like a failure is normal and part of the journey
  • Why dropping expectations could save your marriage
  • What “your spouse’s only job is to be loved by you” means
  • How to exist as a more supportive and loving partner in your relationship

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Drs. Letizia Alto & Kenji Asakura
Semi-Retired MD, https://semiretiredmd.com

Dr. Faryal Michaud
Write Your Last Chapter, http://writeyourlastchapter.com

Dr. Bonnie Koo
Wealthy Mom MD, https://wealthymommd.com

Dr. Barbara Hamilton
Tired Superheroine, https://tiredsuperheroine.com

Drs. Ali & Mark Novitsky
Life Coaching for Women Physicians, https://www.lifecoachingforwomenphysicians.com

Dr. Devon Gimbel
Physician Life Coaching, https://physicianlifecoaching.com

Dr. Katrina Samuels Hughes
Off the Grid

Dr. Robyn Frankel Tiger
The Physicians’ Self-Care Community, https://www.stressfreemd.net/

Dr. Sunny Smith
Empowering Women Physicians, https://empoweringwomenphysicians.com

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