I believe this is because as physicians, we give, and we give, and we give, and that is what we are trained to do. We don’t stop to smell the flowers, or listen to the sounds of nature, let alone go potty, exercise, or rest our mind. We push ourselves until there is nothing left to give and in doing so our families…spouses and sometimes even our children are given the backseat.
If you are a physician mom or physician dad reading you probably know what I am talking about. You probably give most of the hours in your day to your patients and then whatever is left to your children and maybe after that… with the few minutes that are left, you may give to your spouse, and often you save no space for yourself.
Kate Mangona MD – I am a physician married to a physician and continuously working towards marital interdependence and financial freedom. Shortly after COVID began, I realized that despite 6 years of marriage, 5 years as an attending and less than one year away from being financially independent, I had a lifetime more to learn.
And with the new life circumstances COVID brought to town, a whole new level of anxiety arose as our mortality became more tangible… COVID was on our minds 24/7 and we were more serious at home and at work. This was a shock and huge change for us as I am sure it was for you as well. COVID led to a lot of drastic life changes for all of us.
As tensions continued to rise through March and April, I decided to join three women physicians coaching groups, one in May, one in June, and one in July. And that my friends, opened my life to a whole new level of realization I cannot even begin to describe. I started seeing things and circumstances in an entirely new light. Things became lighter and more fun again.
I began working daily on myself and my thoughts, opening myself up to a community of growth and abundance which has ultimately allowed me to intentionally exist with more space for love in my marriage and honestly in every relationship than I have in my life.
And now, it has become my calling to share all I have learned with you. This is why we became physicians right? To help people? This is probably why you became a physician too. And after 17 years in the medical space, I have learned that the burden we place on doctors in today’s healthcare world is so great, that it is sometimes unsurvivable. Doctors throughout the nation are suffering from burnout, from decision fatigue, and from failed relationships at work and at home. And why is this? Why do we, the healers not take care of ourselves in the process of healing others?
Victor Mangona MD – My hubby is a board-certified radiation oncologist, specializing in pediatrics and protons. He has a passion for real estate investing and is a tax code enthusiast. Victor became a financial expert in 2015 during our last year of training in preparation for our increase in income as we graduated fellowship and became attendings. He has led me down the path of financial independence and taught me how to hustle.
He is also my toughest critic (besides myself) and constantly pushes me to perform beyond what I think is possible. He encourages me to invest in myself and lifts me up before I have the chance to be down. Above all, he is loyal, and he is a teacher. Befriend him and your mind will explode with knowledge as you will walk away thinking you just had a brain transplant.
And if this is happening, if you cannot fill your cup with happiness, how can you exist in your relationship for your partner? How can you continue to be happy together?
So because of my self-exploration and discoveries, I am now here with YOU! I want to help YOU be the best possible version of yourself that you can be! You can listen to my podcast, sign up to coach with me 1:1, and if you are a physician, you can join my free facebook group!
I am also a practicing board-certified pediatric radiologist and mother to three strong little girls as well as a mini poodle. I am passionate about helping physicians waste less time arguing with each other, find peace and joy in their marriage and live a more purposeful and mindful life with their spouse.
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