Hello sweet friends!

My name is Kate Mangona and I launched my podcast Medicine, Marriage and Money on September 14th, 2020!

This is a space where we focus on creating marital interdependence and financial freedom.

We discuss the benefits and drawbacks of being in a physician relationship or any relationship! Not only does a successful marriage take focused effort and determination, it also requires an environment of love, safety, growth, and contribution.

In medicine, marriage and money, we examine the relationships of highly successful physician couples who have it all and gather the mindset required for success.

Come with me as we dive into the inside network of physicians in love. My hope is that you can use their knowledge and successes as your spring board into a stronger, more loving, and financially savvy relationship with your spouse.

I am your host on Medicine, Marriage and Money. A board certified pediatric radiologist, wife, mother and life coach.

Get pumped to embark in a journey that tests the boundaries of what you think is possible.

Are you a physician or married to a physician or other high achieving professional?

Are you having a difficult time connecting with your spouse?

Are you and your spouse on different financial pages?

Do you and your spouse fight about the same silly things over and over again?

Do you find yourself avoiding talking about finances with your spouse, particularly how to save, spend and invest money?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, this is a podcast for you!

In this space, we will examine what makes a strong relationship and what it takes to become financially independent with your spouse.

After each episode, I will invite you to ask yourself, “What small tweaks can I make today that will create a huge and lasting impact in my relationship with my spouse and my bank account?’’ We believe there is enough joy, love and wealth in this world for everyone. It just takes determination, desire and an open mind and heart to find it and take it.

Are you ready?

Here we go.

Medicine, Marriage and Money and its owners’, presenters’, and employees are not in the business of providing personal, financial, tax, legal or investment advice and specifically disclaims any liability, loss or risk, which is incurred as a consequence, either directly or indirectly, by the use of any of the information contained in this podcast. Medicine, Marriage and Money, this podcast, and any online tools, if any, do NOT provide ANY legal, accounting, securities, investment, tax or other professional services advice and are not intended to be a substitute for meeting with professional advisors. If legal advice or other expert assistance is required, the services of competent, licensed, and certified professionals should be sought. In addition, Medicine, Marriage and Money does not endorse ANY specific investments, investment strategies, advisors, or financial service firms. 

I share a relatable story as posted in a facebook group and my response.

Turn a vent session into growth session!

Listen to find out EXACLTY what your Spouse needs for Valentine’s Day.

Valuble insights from Day one in Bora Bora Empowering Women Physicians Coaching Retreat also inluced!

Take the free 6 Day Marriage Challenge Now just in time for February 14!

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Valentine’s Day Special Offer: Mini Marriage Reboot

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THIS EPISODE

 

Dr. Vertrees realized that medical school and residency helped her become a great technical surgeon, but she soon realized that there were several career aspects that residency did not cover. She trained in the military, and once her commitment was up she realized she had no idea how to find a job, negotiate her contract, or code notes and cases. She created the BOSS Business of Surgery Series as a way to address those topics, because if she needed to know it, others probably needed to as well.

 

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Email me at [email protected] to join the waitlist!

Visit my website and register for FREE to my 6 Day Marriage Challenge. 

Register Here!

 

THIS EPISODE (a bit delayed on its release)

 

Matt Wolf is a hilarious Father, musician, bagel-shop owner, certified coach, and fiance to my amazing Dermatology and money coach bestie Dr. Bonnie Koo. I love how he finds humor in practically everything he does and can make anyone laugh in under 10 seconds. Matt shares how the pandemic actually happened for him and strengthened his relationship with Bonnie. We recorded this episode nearly a year ago, and am super excited to finally share it with you! 

 

Contact: [email protected] 

Instagram: @wolfie492

If you love bagels, Matt’s Bagel shop: @the_bagel_nook

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THIS EPISODE:

Dr. Sharon Mclaughlin is board certified plastic surgeon. She is a cancer survivor, has an autoimmune disease and advocates for both emotional and physical health. Dr McLaughlin is the founder of Mind Lull, which offers tools and journals to help focus and find fulfillment. 

Sharon is the wife of 21 years to a CRNA and the mother for an 18 year old daughter, dog and 2 rabbits. 

She also runs the wildly successful facebook group Female Physician Entrepreneurs!!!!

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Group: https://fpestrong.com

Website: https://mindlull.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mind.lull/

Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mindlull

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonmclaughlinmd/

Facebook Female Physician Entrepreneurs Group

 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/FemalePhysicianEntrepreneurs

Listen to how my family of 6 slid into 2023 and what it means about our marriage!

 

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Sign up for Making Marriage Work Program today for a happier 2023.

 

What are your power words for 2023?

 

 

Meet Dr. George Naum and his wife, Vanessa. They have been coaching married couples for over 25 years. In 2018 the began specializing in physician marriage coaching. Dr. George is a graduate of the West Virginia School of Osteopathic Medicine, where he earned my Doctorate of Osteopathic Medicine. He has been a trained family physician for over 25 years.
Vanessa is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach trained in the Somatica Method from the Somatica Institute, San Francisco, CA and she provides an insight not often seen in marriage coaching.

The founder of Physician Moms Group (PMG) shares some empowering relationship insights as the feminist leader of over 130 thousand physicians!

https://halasabry.com/

Check out her website to get a FREE 14 page PDF workbook that guides you to create a lasting legacy and find out how to work with her. 

Join my fb group today for a chance to win a ticket to the Making Marriage Work Program starting in two weeks!

To join NOW, because you cannot WAIT to stop yelling, stop being so angry and resentful all the time, then sign up here!

Learn about the 6 predictors of divorce to create awareness in your marriage. What we don’t know, we can’t correct. Being self-aware is the greatest gift you can give to your relationship this Holiday season. From awareness fosters growth! As a Gottman Leader, I can tell you will be much happier in your relationship after learning about the 6 predictors of divorce and how to remedy them. 
 
 

If you are feeling anxious, angry, irritated, sad, or lonely today…this is for YOU!

Listen to learn these quick usefull tips to making your Thanksgiving more enjoyable, relaxing, and loving:)

 

Why your belief that marriage should be 50/50 may be holding you back form deeper connection. How to stop feeling so dissconnected.

 

Are you waiting for someone to apologize to you?

Is your relationship on the rocks?

Do you think your relationship depends on their actions or words or responses to you?

Think again as I share words of wisdom from Brene Brown as I saw her LIVE on stage in Austin just a few days ago.

DARE TO LEAD in your relationship.

Choose Love.

Choose Joy.

Choose Forgiveness.

Choose Courage.

Choose Healing.

Choose You.

Let’s go!

 

Take a step back…would you want to be married to yourself?

Why or why not?

Let’s dive into a few tips on how you can find more joy, fun, and romance in your relationship. 

For more, go to www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com right now and download my 18 page Medical Marriage survival guide and workbook at no cost to you! It has been known to decrease fighting, rumination and grudges between your loved ones.

If you want to take it a step further…really enhance the joy and connection in all of your relationships including those most intimate and dear to you, sign up for a discovery call by clicking “CONTACT US” and “Book a FREE CONSULTATION”.

 

Jumpstart your Holiday Season with three helpful productivity tips for full time Physician Mamas. 

p.s. All Mamas are full time!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 45-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

 

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Facebook Group Women Physicians Creating Wealth https://www.facebook.com/groups/862065417721814

How to have a happy Mother’s Day. 

What is emotional blackmail and how to avoid it!

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Dawn Baker

1. Take different turns. It’s all a journey

2. Take your own health seriously. Schedule time for YOU.

3. What other people see doesn’t matter. 



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Am I up to date on all my preventative health care?
  • Are there any symptoms I have been ignoring?
  • When is the last time I saw the dentist?
  • Am I due for a mammogram or colonoscopy?
  • How can I do one thing for myself today?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: www.practicebalance.com

Have you ever considered starting your own business?

 

Would you love for your brand to be a household name?

 

Dr. Nneka Unachukwu (aka Dr. Una) will show you how!

 

“All business skills are learnable”

 

Listen in as she describes how she became a 7-figure entrepreneur while prioritizing her family first!

 

Maybe you want to follow suit?

 

Dr Una is a pediatrician and serial entrepreneur. She is the founder of EntreMD, a company designed to help doctors build profitable businesses so they can live life and practice medicine on their terms. Nneka is the loving wife to a pastor and the strong mother of 4 children.

 

Featured on this Episode: https://entremd.com/

 

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 45-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

David Draghinas MD is a husband, father, physician, investor, and Short Term Rental specialist. 

 

Always passionate about real estate, David was seeking an asset class that would provide “high monthly cash flows” that would quickly propel him towards financial independence. He found such a wealth vehicle with short term rentals.

 

After cracking the code on short term rentals, he sought out a small group of physician investors to teach them his methods of investing. The refined teachings from this group have become David’s flagship course: Short Term Rentals to Financial Independence for Busy Professionals.

 

David continues to learn and grow, always wanting to be on the cutting edge of the short term rental industry. Currently, he is very excited about several niches within the industry, including unique properties, glamping, and properties that deliver “one of a kind” experiences. He believes investors that build a portfolio of short term rentals will be well positioned for the future.

 

When not nerding out on STR’s, David can be found podcasting at Doctors Unbound and amplifying physician voices through his podcast.

David is the loving husband to his wife, Diana, who runs their STRs and has been married for 14 years!!!! David is the proud Dad of Kate 8, Matt 6, Theo 5, and Ezra 2.

Dr. Erika is a board certified family medicine physician with a focus on women’s health. She serves as adjunct professor at Idaho COM, teaching women’s health and clinical skills groups. She is an active physician consultant for television, news & social media. 

Dr. Aragona is the loving mother of 2 kids age 3 and 6, one 10 month old French bulldog and the supportive spouse to a the VP of real estate development company

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I make medicine enjoyable
  • Do I make fear-based decisions in life? Like not getting on social media…why? How does this help?
  • How do I amplify the strengths of my spouse and how do I compliment their weaknesses?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself. Let me coach you and show you what is possible. Sign up here!

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Dr. Ronnie Shalev is a former ER doctor who helps frustrated physicians reclaim their free time by earning passive income through real estate investing.

Mr. Ben Winski is an entrepreneur & invester.

This beautiful pair have been married for 11 years and have two human children, 1 French bulldog (Rocky), 1 chameleon (Ranglo LT) and 100s of crickets!!!

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

You can sign up for her FREE webinar on her website or contact her via email.

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IG @shalwinproperties

FB @shalwinproperties

Do daunting tasks seem less like work when you do them with your loved one???

Have you ever considered your spouse to be a MUSE?

Join us as Dr. Block shares the above principals as well as how he employed the scientific method while dating. Bradley has super valuable insights on dating and marriage including why it is important to STOP keeping score. 

Dr. Block is an otolaryngologist whom I met through the Doctor Podcast Network where he hosts The Physician’s Guide to Doctoring…a podcast where every episode he answers the burning question of what you should have learned while you were memorizing the kreb cycle! He has been married for 6 years to his lovely wife and has three kids under 5!!!! 

I absolutely adore his thoughts on marriage and I think you will too!

Where to find Dr. Bradley Block
Insta: @physiciansguide   
Facebook: @physiciansguidetodoctoring      
Linkedin: Dr. Bradley Block  

And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money 

And 39.6 community

Andrew Wilner, MD, FACP, FAAN double board certified in internal medicine and neurology, health journalist, and an avid SCUBA diver. His latest book is The Locum Life: A Physician’s Guide to Locum Tenens and he hosts the biweekly podcast “The Art of Medicine with Dr. Andrew Wilner”.  Dr Wilner is the loving husband of 6 years to Irene from Philippines and the father to a 3 year old little boy!

www.andrewwilner.com

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 45-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

The three keys to a successful Valentine’s Day!

Dr. Mahesh Raja is a Family Physician, creative being, writer, lover of stories, & empath. She has been in an arranged marriage for 21 years to a supportive software engineer and is the loving mother to two children including a 20 year-old son and 12 year-old daughter.

Her passion is empowering women, especially immigrant women and she has some very powerful messages including how a marriage can work without a foundation of love.

Have you ever considered going on a vacation just you and your spouse. Have you ever left the kids at home with the grandparents, nanny, babysitters, or a combination thereof!? Now is the time!

Listen for tips to get started planning your next couple-only adventure!

Invest in your marriage!

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. KRISTIN YATES

  1. Self-doubt: we all have this part of our brain…notice it. Don’t listen to it. Words matter. “You are not bad”
  2. To serve more fully…you must care for yourself first.
    1. Look at myself through the eyes of my children (dance party…lie with me…just for 3 minutes)
  3. Recognize when you are irritable or angry or frustrated
    1. Awareness….
    2. Am I living my perfect life? How can I tweak one small thing to 
    3. If a tweak feels uncomfortable…stay there…watch for the 
    4. If you have a desire to grow…stuck…uneasy…..discomfort can be familiar.
  4. Mom-Guilt: Is this your driving force? What are the results I am getting from Mom-guilt 
  5. Love your story!



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I put myself first? Above my children and spouse?
  • Do I model generosity and love?
  • Do I try to make things fun?
  • Do I let mom-guilt (or dad-guilt) control my life?
  • Do I let any of my choices create resentment
  • Do I love my story?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

What you will learn:

1. Marriage gratitude exercise
2. How to avoid shameful New Year’s resolutions
3. Examples of shameless 2022 goals
3. How to pick 2022 power word

Join the host Dr. Andrew Tisser, from Talk 2 Me Doc podcast with his guest Dr. Kate Mangona, as they discuss the typical factors and issues that can sour relationships between couples in residency. As a board-certified pediatric radiologist and life coach, Dr. Kate shares to us the stories of how physician couples struggle with LDR, emotional baggage from work, how communication isn’t always everything, and more. For Dr. Kate, if anything, the best time to work on your relationship is when it is okay.

In this episode you will learn:
· What is the most common problem among resident couples?
· How can a couples’ relationship survive during training?
· If you can’t feel fulfilled on your own, there’s no way you’ll be fulfilled in a relationship.
· Here’s why you should be intentional with your calendar!
· Where do marital conflicts usually come from for physicians?

Connect with Talk2Medoc on:
Website: https://www.andrewtisserdo.com/
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewtisserdo/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talk2medoc_llc/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Talk2MeDoc
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0O_Sf3aYLavYaJ_hg7bM8g

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • Getting medicated through medical school
  • Why she had 100-200 notes open
  • Why she talked to her patients for hours
  • Loving the patients but hating the charting

Marriage: 

  • Taking deep breaths
  • Dating for 6 years…and telling him 2 years in.
  • What is Emotional dysregulation

 

ADHD

 

  • Why her hubby is her ADHD medicine
  • Diagnosed in first semester in medical school
  • Could not concentrate long enough to finish the tests
  • Whole family, is loud, high energy, impulsive, 
  • I am the oldest daughter and should be the example…smart & perfect
  • When her identity crisis began
  • Why she went 8 years without medication as an attending 
  • How diet and exercise can help ADHD
  • Underestimating the time it takes me to get things done
  • Labile with your emotions (making the connections between your emotions and the actions)
  • Living from a place of reactivity

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh

  1. Going through an identity crisis…if you think you may need therapy…counseling…therapy or even medication…what are you making that mean? Does that mean you are not smart or perfect?? Newsflash! There is NO perfect. We all need to mind check-ups…mental health is just as important as your body health.
  2. Not taking care of your thoughts causes resentment….feelings of the second shift when you come home. Getting upset when your spouse is sleeping and you are not!!! When you are breast feeding and cleaning the kitchen and organizing the toys and you feel like you are the only one doing it. Life coaching has helped her with perspective
  3. Emotional Dysregulation….cannot regulate the amygdala when you are so spent….When you take something small and think it’s the END OF THE WORLD!!!! 
  4. Don’t feed the seagulls

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Am I living from a place of reactivity?
  • Do I accept myself the way I am?
  • Do I have awareness of time as it passes?
  • Do I decide how long I want to spend on a certain task and stick to it?
  • Do I get behind at work regularly?
  • When I cannot make a decision, do I jump into anger or irritation?

 I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of being angry, upset, or annoyed!

RSVP NOW!  

Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.

And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money 

And 39.6 community

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

Laura Hall is board certified in Obstetrics and Gynecology, Fetal Echocardiograms, Abdomen and Vascular ultrasound. 

 

For the past 6 years, she has worked in high risk perinatal sonography.

 

Laura is the loving wife of a software engineer and supportive mother of  two young children, a four year old boy and almost 1-year-old girl with SCID (severe combined immune deficiency. 

 

Receiving news that her daughter would spend many months of her first year of life in the hospital, strengthened her empathy for patients learning of abnormalities on their routine ultrasounds. 

 

Laura has found her experience with her daughter to further her passion in the field of sonography with a goal of giving the highest of care to each patient and their growing families.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • How she found out her daughter had no immune system
  • Emmy’s first year with severe combined immunodeficiency
  • Why she could not breast feed her baby
  • Why the treatment for SCID was not straightforward
  • Why they decided not to wait for a thymus

Marriage: 

  • How Baby’s illness affected her marriage
  • Deciding early on she did not want a divorce
  • How her marriage was put on hold
  • How they recovered quickly, despite the arguments
  • Why her hubby said, “It’s okay…I am just going to turn you in for a younger, hotter model”

 

Motherhood:

  • Why she decided to take a leave from fetal sonography
  • Why abnormal results may not mean the worst thing
  • A Mother’s job is to worry

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM LAURA HALL

  1. Before telling bad news to your patient, imagine having no idea what half the words out of your own mouth mean…and getting slapped in the face with FEAR. How you think a patient should handle this? Sometimes as physicians we get so used to telling our patients about some new disease, we forget their life is flashing before their eyes. They don’t know what we know. They are scared. They want all the answers. Instead of becoming annoyed that they don’t understand, they won’t accept a diagnosis, or they won’t do what we recommend, try turning toward self-compassion.
  2. There is a lot of “We don’t know in medicine.” Medicine is not just a science. It is also an art. We must remember that patients are not aware of how much we actually do not know and how much time a diagnosis can actually take to make. Understanding that our patients may be sad, angry, or upset is key. Their feelings are not an attack on who we are or our profession. Just accepting this may is the first step. Allow your patients to be angry, irritated, sad and even confused. This is all normal. 
    1. Drop the ego.
    2. Apologize.
    3. Make up!
    4. Love unconditionally. 
  3. We may get into arguments and say choice words to our hunny. Can we recover quickly?

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I want all the control of things I have no control over?
  • Do I allow my patients to have all the feelings?
  • Am I good at letting go of my ego?
  • How do I recover after an argument with my spouse?

 I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of being angry, upset, or annoyed!

RSVP NOW!  

Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.

And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money 

And 39.6 community

I am so GRATEFUL y’all are still listening!!!! After releasing 61 episodes, I have decided to reshare why I started this podcast in the first place!

What makes a Successful Marriage…and answers from over 10 of my initial guests on this show! If you think you have a good answer too, please post in my fb group or dm me!

For those of you listening for the FIRST time, welcome! You are in for a treat:) This inaugural episode is TIMELESS. 

 

Plus, I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of being angry, upset, or annoyed!

RSVP NOW!  

Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.

And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money 

And 39.6 community

I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of being angry, upset, or annoyed!

RSVP NOW!  

Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.

And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money 

And 39.6 community



WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • How she feels about the Romance of Medicine
  • Why not getting her dream job was a blessing
  • Why her hubby changed from surgery to pathology  back to surgery

 

Marriage: 

  • How their marriage survived despite no communication during his surgery internship
  • What a “bid for connection” means and how this helps your marriage

Money:

  • Why money does not correlate to happiness
  • What money challenges they faced during residency

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Lara McElderry

  1. Sometimes you just have to go through it. Not every day is happy. There is misery. There is tragedy. 
  2. This is exactly who I am supposed to be and exactly who I am supposed to serve. Same with my spouse….
  3. Look for “bids for connection”. If you are not looking for it, you will not find it. Without noticing this…you are not connecting to the level you can!

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What would happen if I stopped?
  • How often do I wonder “what if”
  • Do I share my spouse’s goals?
  • How long can I go without spending money?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW



*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: Locumstory

I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of angry, upset or annoyed!

RSVP NOW!  

Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.


TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Elena Shea

  1. Focus on you. Put yourself first…emotionally and physically.  Especially for new Moms. Rest when your babies are resting. It’s not just a cliche. 
  2. If you can’t breast feed, it is okay. You are not a bad mom. Don’t accept other people’s guilt. 
  3. Don’t rush to have children



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Am I resting when my children or spouse are resting?
  • What is my mental health in balance or do I need to get checked out?
  • Am I prioritizing myself and my relationship? What does that look like?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: CompHealth

Medicine, Marriage, and Money Group Coaching is now closed for enrollment!

If you want to join the party next time, get on my guest list here!

Until then, I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of being angry, upset, or annoyed!

RSVP NOW!  

Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.

And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money 

And 39.6 community

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • Her father and grandfather were both ophthalmologists
  • Working private practice Pedi, 4 days a week is the new normal
  • Her worst week of training ever, emotionally draining, overly criticized 

 

Marriage: 

  • How she met her future hubby post-call at a bar
  • What she thought when he showed her pictures of his son
  • What “unlike anyone I had ever met before” means
  • Looked at the world through a different lens
  • How they remain, individuals, while growing closer together
  • Why she is strict with bedtime
  • Why she thought they were going to have to go to the hospital during the Proposal

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Elena Shea

  1. Make the Time….strict with bedtime or getting up time…But CREATE the time for yourself and for you and your spouse to just sit and BE.
  2. Look through the lens you never knew existed!  Adapt the lens of your spouse…ESPECIALLY in arguments. 
  3. Full time can be 4 days a week! So if you aren’t already doing that, figure out a way you can!

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How do I remain an individual while striving to become one with my spouse?
  • How do I use my days off to the maximum?
  • What lens can I try on today?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • Working in an underserved community in Houston
  • Working alongside her sister, a 9 month age difference! 
  • Transferring from Texas Tech to Baylor in Houston
  • Married the first semester in medical school
  • What it was like to do a residency with her sister 



Marriage: 

  • Why she married her complete opposite 
  • How they met
  • How he asked permission to date her (respectful to Iranian culture)
  • Why she fell in love with his calm & mature presence
  • Having independent space and coming together with things they have in common
  • How do you want to feel and who do you want to be



Children

  • Why she starting fighting with her child from 2 weeks old for 10 years
  • When she took out her white flag and started working on herself
  • How she stopped taking her actions to heart
  • Why she started to name her child’s superpowers
  • How she consciously parents 
  • The awakened family

 

Money:

  • When she thought money is evil and having money is greedy
  • Shifting from money brings problems to…
  • Money brings you the freedom of time
  • When and why hire a housekeeper & meal service 



Extra:

  • What was Post-call fatigue for 4 years 
  • How she felt completely disconnected from her head and body
  • Why living in anger, frustrations and irritability is a thing of the past



TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. SOGOL PAHLAVAN

  1. For 7 years, they each had their own goals and were supportive of each other. 
  2. Everything was going great until the children!  Creating a business, husband’s stuff, lost all-time for self.
  3. Write down all the qualities you want to change: controlling, angry, judged, irritable, angry, frustrated, not a listener (Her husband knew all these things for 20 years…) and figure out how you will change them!
  4. 99% of our suffering is caused by…
  5. The second half of our lives: not a rinse and repeat of the first half. It will not be hustle or grit for bigger homes and cars…we are not chasing 
  6. Children are our biggest teachers. Don’t ever break your child’s spirit. 



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I allow myself to feel my feelings. 
  • How do you want to feel?
  • How do you want to be? 
  • Does being controlling get me what I want?
  • What can I delegate more of?
  • What within me triggered me?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • MD & PhD felt structured
  • How her COVID affected her career
  • Her health advice as a dermatopathologist



Marriage: 

  • Why SLEEP is the foundation of everything. 
  • Why asking “What is our routine?” is important 
  • How do they need to act for you to feel a certain way?
  • Who we can control
  • The reasons they fell in love
    • Her as a mother
    • On the dance floor
  • How do you discuss having a blended family with young children

 

Money:

  • What she learned about money from her Immigrant parents 
  • How her finances differed from 1st to forever marriage
  • How she took ownership of the marital finances

 

Confidence/Culture/Parenting/Investing/Extra:

  • How and Why Coaching in secret!!!
  • Racial & Social Injustice
  • Dropping the perfectionism
  • Family comes FIRST

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. URSULA LANG

  1. SLEEP is the foundation of EVERYTHING!
  2. Check our expectations. How do they need to act for you to feel GOOD?
  3. Find the FUN if life!
  4. If we are suffering, we are just adding to the world’s suffering. So in order to make change in the world, we must first look within ourselves. 



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What comes first in my life?
  • What is the perfect amount of time to spend with my family?
  • AM I CAREER DRIVEN? If so, can family still come first?
  • Am I taking care of myself?
  • Am I searching for the RIGHT way????
    • How often do I reach outside myself for the right answer?
    • What is my true NORTH?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • Armenia for medical school in Russian
  • How her Father was a visionary
  • The Reliance on technology
  • Volume in India and Armenia was 60-65 pateints versus the USA
  • Seen as a Demi-God in India 
  • Where there was better Bedside clinical medicine with good relationship with patients

 

Marriage: 

  • Big 450 ppl wedding in Delhi
  • Divinely designed relationship loving trust and respect, high accountability where partners play to each other’s strength 
  • Why Namita’s tailor asked her if she was marrying the right man.
  • The matrimonial section newspaper Advertisement!!!
  • Malin calls her and they have a 45 minute phone call “Love at first sound” 
  • Planning the wedding after THREE conversations

 

Money:

 

  • Dining out versus Home experience
  • Kids get to be messy and loud
  • Where children get to be their own selves 

 

  • How closely she watches her food budget 
  • Her Multiple guilty pleasures, 
  • The Finer things in life
  • How she prefers to spend money
  • Safety and cleanliness

 

FOOD: 

  • Where her love of food comes from
  • Expression of love and togetherness
  • When she only knew how to make tea and boil eggs and make toast
  • Her baggage!!!! (food, medicine, music, spirituality)
  • When her own inner cook blossomed 
  • When she realized life was not to be taken for granted
  • Relationship with food and nurturing the people we love 
  • How perfection can limit your cooking style
  • Who drives her  to creative Insanity
  • How to create a story or experience for children during meal time
  • Get them to touch and smell (show them food documentaries, show them bright, colorful pictures) Food network, PBS 
    • Fresh cucumbers, fresh mozzarella, healthier breads 
    • Create a pantry 
    • Kid safe madelin
    • Squeezing limes and lemon
    • Food ricer
    • Food shows

 

Confidence/Culture/Parenting/Investing/Extra:

  • Her biggest strength 
  • The hardships she endured as a young woman in medical school

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR NAMITA KANSAL

  1. Let’s not depersonalize and deprioritize something as essential as food. It can be a relaxing place. It could bring more normalcy and connectedness to your family. 
  2. Food has the power to bring communities together. Share freely. Food is an essential part of life. It needs time and attention. Put it on the agenda. We cannot buy back our health and our relationship, so work on it now!
  3. Get your picky eaters more involved in food!



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • If I died tomorrow, would I be happy leaving the world as I am right now?
  • Do I make time to savour, share and truly enjoy my food?
  • How can I make meal time more enjoyable and healthy?
  • How can I share more love through 

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • First-generation Filipina physician
  • Her parents were married 38 years before he died 5 years ago from gastric cancer
  • Imposter syndrome and perfectionism
    • Service and helping others, perception of being inferior
    • Didn’t think I could be a doctor
    • Crying, away from home, close friends helped, afraid to ask for help
    • The more people you surround yourself with, the easier the burden becomes
  • Fireball in year 2 of residency when she found her voice



Marriage: 

  • Told she could not have a boyfriend in grade school….until 18 while her brother…
  • The threshold for travel was very different
  • Short Filipina girl surrounded by people who did not look similar
  • How his parents were more lenient
  • Seek a partner who has gifts that you seek to improve in your own
  • Structured vs. laid-back —-parenting
  • Choosing the person who has the gifts that you lack
  • Friends at first sight!!!!! 
    • Jumped into a marriage 
    • Catholic retreat vs. the 4-hour workshop
    • When her ex asked, “who do you think is in charge of the finances?”
  • Getting an annulment through the Catholic church
  • Why going to therapy, is like going to the gym
    • Instead of sweat, there are tears
  • Who said “At least he doesn’t hit you!” and why



Money:

  • Separate accounts, separate properties
  • His, hers, and ours

 

Food:

  • Intermittent fasting for 7 years
    • 8-10 hour eating window
    • Didn’t have to think as much about what she ate, but when
    • Abs come and go based on what you eat, how visible they are
  • How she packs her exercise equipment when they travel
  • Allen Satter’s roles of 
    • Parents roles: what and when
    • Children decide if and how much
  • If you never put a vegetable on their plate…
  • He is a creature of habit. I like variety
  • Fav stores: Costco, Bristol Farms, Ralphs, Instacart

 

TAKE-HOME POINTS 

  1. Next time you get upset or frustrated with your spouse for not doing something the way YOU would have done it, remember, You did NOT marry YOU! You married them. 
  2. Health is the greatest wealth and time is the greatest gift. 
  3. If you want to improve your diet and nutrition in general….Pick one thing at a time….give it some time to really make it a lifestyle change instead of a chore or diet you will not want to continue…..start eating more plants….start with one or two more veggie servings a day….Fast for an hour…if this is your thing…not everything will be your thing, but nutrition is not a sacrifice….it is a privilege if you allow it to slowly come into your life. 
  4. Marriage is not 50/50. Divorce IS!
  5. Parents’ roles are what and when and Children decide if and how much.



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What are the top 3 reasons I married my Hunny?
  • Do I want them to be just like me?
  • How can we be healthier as a family?
  • Do I allow my children to decide if and how much?
  • Is it possible to eat more plants or serve more plants to my family?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • Medicine in East Africa, nonprofit, global emergency care
  • How she worked herself out of a job
  • What is Wholist 

Marriage: 

  • Ski bum in college met hubby through moonshine
  • The quote she will never forget
  • The best decision her hubby ever made
  • Why it took 9 months of spreadsheeting to purchase a sprinter van

Health Coach:

  • Healing with whole foods
  • Why she traveled from Philly to NY to get a healthy coach certificate
  • What is Lifestyle medicine (sleep, nutrition, and exercise)
  • 15 minutes podcast for her clients, 
  • How her hubby lost 35 pounds
  • Less processed food
  • Local farms
  • Plant-based
  • 2-3 animal meals throughout the week
  • Your children will eat and they will eat what you give them
  • What you do not have in the house, is just as important as what you have in the house

Healthy Foods for Picky Eaters:

  • Tofu sticks with cheese
  • Veggie smoothies 
  • Egg cakes with veggies

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Heather Hammerstedt

  1. Know your spouse so well, there there is no need to fight or get into arguments. This means you are always staying curious and trying to see things through their perspective or you have just accepted them for how they are…no need to change your spouse in order to make you feel better. Would you like them to change you just so they feel better…even if you do not want or agree for the need to change? 
  2. What you do not have in the house, is just as important as what you have in the house.
  3. Your children will eat and they will eat what you give them
  4. The goal is to work yourself out of a job



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I Step back and be mindful?
  • How can I delay quick action until I understand what is happening?
  • Do we always eat chips while we eat football?
  • Am I actually hungry or am eating because it is lunchtime?



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  • Podcast: Curate Your Health
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN EPISODE 52

  • What we look for in an offering
  • Why do the people you invest with matter
  • What does it mean to have aligned goals as an investor 
  • Why location matters
  • Why the structure matters (preferred rate of return, PRR)
  • What is PRR and why is this good for passive investors
  • How a K1 is helpful
  • When Financial Advisors are helpful

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM The Mangonas

  1. The people you invest with matter!
  2. No one will care about your money more than you! 
  3. There is always more to learn when it comes to your finances. This is the main reason Victor continues to teach in his 39.6 community!

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What are your motivations?
  • Do I qualify for REPS? If I want to, how can I?
  • Do I want to actively or passively invest or both?

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Real Estate:

  • Process of obtaining a Mortgage (and mortgage rates) back in the day (the early 2000s)
  • Why it was smarter to own than to rent 
  • Was buying his first real estate property scary????
  • Why his investment went from $60K to $13K in less than a year
  • Why I (his wife) rented instead of owned during our 5-year residency
  • How much money Victor spent updating his Condo
  • What he did with the condo once graduating residency
  • How much he cash flowed
  • Why and how Victor sold his first rental property

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Victor Mangona

  1. What seems impossible to one person, is more than possible to another person. What is your impossible goal?  Say it out loud! Find someone else who does what you want to do and model after them! Figure out how others reach this said “impossible goal” and borrow their habits and thoughts to reach the goal. 
    1. Limiting belief: I need a lot of money to invest in real estate. Money is NOT the limiting factor. So what is??? YOUR MIND!
    2. Why money is NOT the limit factor: Time, resources, sweat equity, & networking are all variables that count.
  2. There are a lot more financial possibilities than we give ourselves credit for.
    1. If you have 1, 5, or 10-year goals, it is okay for them to change and evolve as life continues and as you learn and grow! 
  3. Flexibility and an open mind are key to being successful. 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Is real estate scary or confusing? Why or why not?
  • How could I comfortably house hack?
  • How am I protecting my downside?
  • What is stopping me from investing in my real estate investment?
  • What type of real estate investment is most intriguing to me?
  • How can I invest in myself?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • Why he did a 3-year residency after dental school
  • Why Joel wanted additional streams of income even though his hospital job creates joy and fulfillment in his life
  • Why Winnie left banking to become an ICU nurse 

Marriage: 

  • Meeting at an Asian Jam
  • Falling in love during their deep dating conversations
  • Why they did 3 years of international long distance
  • Why they had 3 marriage ceremonies

Money:

  • Growing up in a family without financial literacy
  • How being a teller and working in the bank changed her views on money
  • The financial lessons Winnie learned from her immigrant parents

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM WINNIE AND JOEL NAPENAS

  1. When you think something is impossible (like planning a wedding in ONE week), just VISUALIZE IT!!!! Same thing with investing in real estate!!!
  2. There is not just one path to accomplish your dreams. You can have multiple passions and multiple things in your life which bring you fulfillment.
  3. It is okay to take a step back and breathe while your spouse handles something. 
  4. Believe in your spouse more than they believe in themselves. If you do this, the rewards will be endless. If you can’t do this, ask yourself why? Having a supportive spouse is one of the main things all of us ever want. To have support…be loved…be accepted by the most important person in our lives….It is MUCH easier to reciprocate this after one of you begins it, so it might as well be you… today!



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I start visualizing my impossible goals in my life on a daily basis?
  • How can I encourage my spouse to do what makes them most happy?
  • What is my money mindset?
  • What is my investment mindset?
  • Do I work hard for my money or do I allow my money to work hard for me?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • Meeting the first week of TY year at orientation
  • Splitting the difference 85 miles apart



Marriage: 

  • The proposal in Venice with an upgrade to the Royal Suite
    • Put the biggest ring he could afford on a CC
    • Sutured it into the money belt
  • “If you want to leave me, you can”
  • This is not the man you married. You have a free pass to leave
  • How trauma made them stronger
  • Where do you want to see yourself in 3 or 5 years

 

Money:

  • How they switched roles financially, (Scrooge)
  • How shattering his acetabulum changed his life
  • 14 days in inpt rehab
  • What he visualized during rehab
  • Both nurses named Angels 
  • Epiphanny during snowboarding to get disability insurance
  • Why to buy a home based off one physician’s income
  • Why he regrets selling a property 
  • How they Changed their investment strategy
  • Why they invested in a pool and backyard
  • Why they borrowed money from backyard fund to invest in a short term rental property
  • How Bakersfield property was a learning experience (super bad)



TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DRS.  IAN COOK & LAUREN IHDE

  1. Visualize your success. Not just the success of today or next month….but your success 3 years from now! 
    1. WE don’t buy insurance because we know or want bad things to happen. You get insurance for when the unexpected happens! You get insurance so your family does not have to suffer by a split second decision you could make at any time. 
  2. Get good insurance!
  3. Turn bad experiences into learning opportunities.



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I spend a little bit more time on my marriage this week?
  • When can I take my next weekend getaway?
  • What is my investment strategy and does it align with my life goals?
  • How can I turn my financial failures into learning experiences?

 

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  • Twitter: @thecarpediemmd

 

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I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage  and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • The inappropriate conversation and Falling in love with her hairdresser
  • Why she calls her hubby her human Xanax

 

Marriage: 

  • The firecracker and the volcano (fizzles out and destruction)
  • Learning to take ownership over my experiences instead of controlling his

Money:

  • Why asking for money is not greedy
  • How feeling undervalued affects how we practice medicine

Negotiation:

  • What is conversational intelligence
  • What is negotiation
  • How to create positive reactions with words
  • How to create a higher trust, co-creative placed
  • The addiction of being right

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Linda Street

  1. Negotiation does not have a winner and a loser, especially in marriage. This is a discussion where we WANT to agree. Why would we want our spouses to feel they could not trust us or not share their ideas? 
  2. Language selection is SO IMPORTANT  in our conversations- appreciative over judgemental. I really want to understand…how can we parent in a way that we are both happy with instead of “Why did you…..” judgey to defensive mode, We both want to parent our children so they don’t end up in prison. Culturally we have been conditioned to be right…an addiction to be right!
  3. Negotiating with our patients…What are their concerns? Why won’t they take the medication or follow our advice??? We have the same goals right? HEALTH!!! Stay curious!



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Who is my human Xanax?
  • Am I addicted to being right?
  • How can I approach my next conversation with language that creates a higher trust?
  • How can I foster conversational intelligence amongst my children, spouse, and co-workers? 

 

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Welcome to the First Medicine, Marriage, and Money Summer Showcase where we are spotlighting the other amazing doctor podcasts that are out there. This episode is from the Doctor Me First podcast with Dr. Errin Weisman.

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It’s time! We’ve finally gotten to sit back down and have an Alpha Female discussion. Spring is in the air and with it will come extremely LONG days for Craig so we knew we had to get it in. Listen as he shares what’s going on down on the farm and we chat about our family updates. 
Corn is up in prices and we’ve been preparing the fields and the equipment to get the highest yield. Craig shares what that looks like as we try to record in a house full of needy kids!
He’s also taken up day trading and watching a ton of financial shows. His interest has been piqued and he’s been reading and learning and watching which is why he hasn’t actually done much investing yet. But it’s fun to hear him talk about it. 
The first thing Craig doesn’t know… I want to get rid of these kittens. There’s definitely more but after my Grandma passed away we split up her cats and the older cats are just so much more manageable. Also, I’m getting my ears pierced again!
Craig and I have so much fun doing these episodes and giving you a peek into our lives and our family. We hope you enjoy it today!


“When you are married to an alpha female, remember the mantra, it’s no big deal.” Errin and Craig Weisman


In this episode:
[04:19] Let’s start by listening to what’s happening down on the farm with Craig.
[07:00] Craig shares his interest in day trading.
[09:33] Let’s talk about things Craig doesn’t know.
[13:02] Craig’s thoughts on all the things he doesn’t know.
[14:33] Are you ready for our family update?
[18:41] His thoughts on the “married to an alpha female” segment.
[20:50] “It’s no big deal.”
[23:59] Thank you for listening!

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • Why he stepped down from private practice 13 
  • Whether or not he suggested  his son goes to medical school

Marriage: 

  • The path of Dependence to Independence to Interdependence
  • Why his first marriage didn’t work
  • Why Equal doesn’t mean the SAME 
  • 2014 Date with Destiny and Relationship today
    • The difference between masculinity and femininity
    • More comfortable being the protector and provider
    • “Shall we Dance” -Japanese version (job of the man is to lead, to showcase, and provide a safe space so she can shine)
    • Bring back the polarity
    • Dance of Life 
  • How he rebuilt his empire after divorce, 

Money:

  • What is a fiduciary
  • His definition of wealth
  • Whoever has a higher standard owns it.
    • Cooking (her), laundry (him), finances (him), less nagging
  • Compartmentalize, safety, dream, risk bucket
  • Why checking accounts tend to be spent even if one does not intend to spend it
  • How to pay YOURSELF first
  • How he dug his own hole
  • The worst thing that can happen as an investor
    • Learned to make systems so emotions would not sabotage
  • What rounding on your stocks systems means
  • Jumping at the latest information…trigger visceral emotions
  • How he empowers!  

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. DAVID YEH

  1. The definition of wealth can be simple. I can mean the amount of money you need to live on for the rest of your life. It doesn’t need to mean something completely out of reach….unattainable, multiple luxurious vacations a year, or a closet full of exquisite bags….it just needs to be enough for you to live. So take that for what it’s worth and start building your wealth
  2. The worst thing that can happen as an investor is to make a lot of money quickly which leads to arrogance and overconfidence. Learn to make systems so emotions will not sabotage!
  3. Being equal in your marriage DOES NOT MEAN being the SAME. There is just no such thing, so we might as well stop comparing ourselves to our spouses or anyone else.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What is my definition of wealth?
  • In the dance of life that is my marriage…do I lead or do I shine?
  • Is my financial advisor a fiduciary?
  • How can I be more open-minded in my marriage?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR:  Care Cloud: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/carecloud

A raw and unedited conversation with my Mom about her marriage.

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

 

Medicine: 

  • Taking a year off to do Health Care advocacy in DC
  • Physician Leadership, Resilience, Compassion Fatigue, and Stress Management
  • Why trading time for money felt easy as a physician although she never felt she had enough

 

Marriage: 

  • Why she planned to never get married
  • The pivotal moment when her hubby decided to pursue her
  • How things shifted when she decided to put marriage on her vision board instead of just her career

 

Money:

  • How she and her hubby decided to start investing in their marriage
  • Old mindset: Not making money = conflict + divorce
  • Why she never felt like she had enough money

 

Confidence/Parenting:

  • Raise your hand!
  • How to talk about abundance with your children
  • Explaining why until things click

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. VANESSA CALDERON

  1. Whatever you decide is going to happen will happen. If you decide all marriages will end in conflict and divorce, plan for a divorce. If you decide when conflict arises, you will work through it, you will work through it.
    1. Do it for the right reasons. Not for someone to complete you, to feel loved, for status or money. 
  3. Look at the bigger picture during conflicts. Remember you are not the only one suffering.
    1. Being a compassionate leader
    2. Calling people out with compassion. Have the courage to have difficult conversations but come from a place of love
    3. Trust and transparency: Any questions and topic is allowed
  4. How to teach resilience:
  5. How you do one thing, is how you do everything.
  6. Wanting to be loved is different than needing to be loved. 



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I lead with more self-compassion
  • How do I feel about conflict in my relationship?
  • Can I tell the difference between anger and sadness when I am in an argument? If so, how?
  • How can I prevent physician burnout…both for myself and for those around me?
  • Do I trade my time for money?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

Sponsor: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/advicemedia

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to be on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist? →  Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • Meeting his future wife with two black eyes in anatomy lab
  • Why he burnt out in residency
  • When he commuted 4 hours a day

Marriage: 

  • How is future wife reacted to his initial courting attempts
  • When and how he began implementing boundaries between work and family life
  • How they emotionally prepared for the new baby

Money:

  • How he feels about his 1 million dollar combined student loan debt
  • Why he does not subscribe to the “live like a resident” mindset

Early Career Strategy:

  • The Why, How, and What of career strategy
  • The importance of defining the who before medical school or residency
  • Renegotiating your contract vs leaving clinical medicine

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Andrew Tisser

  1. Design your career strategy. Set short and long term goals. Why, What, & then How
    1. Pay for time
    2. Climb out of the scarcity mindset.
    3. Live in abundance
  2. To live like a resident or not.
  3. Student Loans are just a tax

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What are my short term goals in medicine?
  • What are my long term goals in medicine?
  • Am I connected to my Why?
  • Why do I have anxiety about student loan debt?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Website:  https://andrewtisserdo.com
  • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=16506816
  • Instagram: @talk2medoc_llc
  • Twitter: @talk2medoc
  • TikTok: @talk2medoc
  • YoutTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0O_Sf3aYLavYaJ_hg7bM8g
  • LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewtisserdo/

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: Doctor Me First (Dr. Errin Weisman)

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to be on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist? →  Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • How he is able to produce content and work on courses/videos in between seeing his pediatric patients
  • Why he implemented templates and hired a scribe when the practice he joined had never had one before

Marriage: 

  • Why he fell in Love during Summer Camp
  • How he teaches his children the importance of couple time
  • How he and his wife make time for each other with 5 (now 6) children

Money:

  • How focusing on values decreases financial disagreements
  • Why he has Sunday night meetings with his wife 

Time Management:

  • How his morning routine helps his wife and children begin their day
  • The importance of finding help to repurpose content
  • How 2.5 minutes of shopping online saves him 2.5 hours in the actual store
  • How he does bedtime with 5 (now 6) children

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR PHIL BOUCHER

  1. Know when to place the needs of your spouse or children above your own and when to prioritize your own self care. This is an important distinction that often does not come naturally. We learn as we go. How do I want to make my families’ life better in this situation? Another good question to ask yourself at the moment I will borrow from my dear friends Dr. Alexandra Stockwell who recently came to speak with my Women Physicians coaching group. She offers to ask ourselves, what does everyone in this family need right now, including me?
    1. Example: Dinner, TV, bedtime, alone time, reconnection time
    2. When I am overwhelmed, angry, and victimize myself, I have learned that all I need is often 10-15 minutes to reset…take a shower, think about why I am really feeling the way I feel and a moment to take ownership for my feelings instead of blaming them on someone else.  
  3. Do not wait for someone else to make your life more efficient. If you crave efficiency and you notice wasted time at work, suggest a solution. Remember not to focus on the problem as in any negotiation. Present two best options to your group. If neither option is adopted, create one for yourself. Templates…a scribe, get creative, find alternative methods. This won’t happen overnight. 
    1. Make a list of your shared values
    2. Family Time
    3. Home
    4. Experiences
    5. Material Items
    6. Charity
    7. Notice if your shared values support increased spending habits…if so figure out how to increase your salary. 
    8. Evaluate what your variables can be shifted in your home to help align  
    9. What variables can I shift to support my spending habits?
  4. Create shared values with your spouse. 
    1. A Dream Home
    2. The Headboard
    3. The Luxury Car
  5. Examples: Time with family on weekends, annual couple only vacations, Grandparents



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I have a good balance between self care and self sacrifice?
  • What can I delegate in my life?
  • How can my spouse and I create more shared visions?
  • Do my values support my spending habits?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Podcast: Raising Good Parents and High Yield Physicians
  • Facebook: Phil Boucher 
  • Instagram: @raisinggoodparents



*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: locumstory.com OR doctorpodcastnetwork.com/locumstory

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

 

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

  • How Pediatric Radiation Oncology has shaped his view as a Father and how he parents
  • How Fatherhood enhances life and fosters growth
  • Financial Tips for expecting, new, or current Fathers

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • How he paid off his medical school loan debt
  • Why his GI practice struggled to make any money during the pandemic
  • How they planned a wedding during medical school

Marriage: 

  • Proposing to his medical school sweetheart 5 months after they met 
  • Infatuation at first sight
  • Bonding over sonic drive-in dates

Money:

  • What designating a household CFO means
  • Why having equal say in the budget is necessary
  • Teaching children about money through commission opportunities

Coaching: 

  • How to become more loving
  • Normalizing shame and hopelessness when it comes to finances
  • How to practice good medicine in private practice

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM BRENT LACEY

  1. Most conflicts arise from unrealistic or unknown expectations. 
  2. Figure out your business, family, and life values before a crisis. Don’t wait for a crisis to figure out what is most important in life to you!
  3. Caring more about your spouse’s goals than your own fosters selflessness and relational unity.
  4. We run an exceptional business so that we can practice good medicine. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Why do I feel shame or hopelessness when it comes to my finances?
  • What unrealistic or unrealized expectations do I have for my spouse? 
  • How do I show selflessness towards my spouse?
  • How can I commit to loving my spouse despite the struggles which may and do arise?
  • Am I choosing to love my spouse on a daily basis?
  • How do I show love?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • 8 years out of residency work on Omaha Nebraska as a board-certified pediatrician
  • First son 3rd year of residency
  • How being a Dad helps him as pediatrician: the texts books say to doit one way and the real life is another

 

Marriage: 

  • Why marriage is a Team sport where thrive off each others strengths and weaknesses
  • How they were zip-tied together at a marriage/divorce party in college
  • When she first began calling him the “guy of my dreams”
  • Raised as a free-range child in West Virginia and how this was different from the way his wife was raised
  • How to parent together when you have differences in opinions

 

Money:

  • How they gain time by having one spouse stay at home
  • Why his money mindset is “in-progress”
  • The difference between taking ownership and blaming oneself

 

COVID:

  • How rates of depression, anxiety, and obesity have changed during “at home learning”
  • How to decide if kids should wear masks
  • Why being the example and exemplifying positivity is important
  • How to stop the spread of COVID misinformation

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Jeremy Toffle

  1. It is not about the actual problem or issue you are discussing….it is about HOW you discuss the topic. Approach conversations with an open mind and without blame. Come from a place knowing that we are all imperfect humans
  2. Misinformation about COVID is everywhere! It is our duty as physicians to either stay updated with the latest information OR have resources readily available for our patients, family, and friends who come to us with questions. 
  3. Create or emphasize a bedtime routine or habit which fosters love and compassion amongst you and your spouse: “Good night, sleep well, sweet dreams, I love you.”



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Did I marry the “guy/gal” of my dreams
  • What am I teaching my children? How can I lead by example?
  • How am I staying updated with the latest COVID misinformation?
  • How can I avoid propagating misinformation?
  • How can I support myself, my spouse, and kids so they are more likely to go to bed happy?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/advicemedia

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • Why she transitioned from New York City to a rural medicine physician life in Hawaii

Marriage: 

  • Her surprise when he proposed and eloped in one trip!
  • Her beliefs on how love and sex versus partnership and negotiating will hold a relationship together
  • How she creates a safe family bubble  
  • How “spring cleaning” and sharing fears and desires weekly helps their relationship
  • What a “toilet flush” means in conversations 

Money:

  • Why Dr. Lisa likes to feel like she has no money (WHAT!?!?)
  • How her hubby and her manage money completely differently 
  • How scarcity is motivating for Dr. Tharler 

Embodiment:

  • Learning how leaning in and affirmations did not work for her
  • What embodiment coaching looks like
  • The goals of embodiment coaching
  • Her husband’s doubts and fears when she started getting involved in embodiment 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR LISA THARLER

  1. Put you and your relationship first. 
  2. Learn your triggers to move through conflict faster. 
  3. Stack positive experiences.
  4. Be vulnerable with your desires and fears to foster deep sharing. (Use “I” statements. Own what you want. Do not focus on what your partner is doing wrong.)
  5. Put boundaries around work, hours, and energy. During this time… Recognizing when you are empty and can give no more. Be honest with yourself when you are exhausted.  

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Why am I not behind?
  • How am I vulnerable with my spouse?
  • How do I create safety in our relationship?
  • What do my body language and tone affect my relationships?
  • How can I set up boundaries around my hours and energy and respect them? 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Facebook Group: Under The White Coat
  • Facebook Group: According to Dr. Lisa
  • Instagram: @accordingtodrlisa 
  • Instagram: @underthewhitecoatmd

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: panaceafinancial.com

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

 

Travel: 

  • How she uses travel hacks to travel affordably
  • Hopper, Google ITA, Rewards programs, Chase Rewards without building a balance, NextVacay, 

 

Marriage: 

  • Meeting her future hubby when she was not ready!
  • How they play as a “Good guy/Bad Guy” team in real estate
  • How they invest in their marriage
  • Once a month budget dates with Josh

 

Money:

  • The drastic change from wealthy with servants to having nothing and helping pay the bills at age 14
  • From growing up with servants and attending a private school to section eight housing and free school lunches
  • How “Tiger Mom” teaches her children the value of money

 

Culture:

  • How her childhood in India differed from her childhood in the States
  • Why Disha and her mother left India after her father died
  • Why Disha transformed her traditional Indian money mindset during her second maternity leave

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR DISHA SPATH

  1. If you are in consumer debt, use the debt snowball principle to climb out of debt and learn how to manage money without being too overwhelmed. Paying off the smallest bill can provide motivation and build up momentum to keep going. 
  2. Cut down the fixed costs (phone plans-switching carriers, cancel unused subscriptions, change grocery stores-from Expensive to Aldi & Walmart, downsize from a big house to renting a smaller place, moving closer to grandparents to help with childcare costs. 
  3. Raise your children without a silver spoon to teach them to know the importance of money and better equip them to be independent later in life.  
  4. Paying off student loans may or may not be your best financial decision. Although this was the right decision for her, she emphasizes that this is not a one size fits all answer. You have to look at your unique circumstances. Do you work for a public or private institution? What is your debt to income ratio? How do you feel about debt? Is it causing you anxiety or fear?



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I find the balance between being frugal and indulging in the good things
  • Do I ever find myself stuck in a scarcity mindset?
  • How can I travel in style on a budget?
  • Do I expect my spouse to take care of all the financials because of a cultural upbringing? If so, how is this serving me?
  • When I want to save money, how can I focus on fixed costs?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Website: thefrugalphysician.com 
  • Facebook: The Frugal Physician
  • Instagram: @thefrugalphysician 
  • Twitter: @thefrugalphysician
  • Pinterest: @thefrugalphysician

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: Physician Financial Services at doctorpodcastnetwork.com/larrykeller

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

 

Travel: 

  • How she uses travel hacks to travel affordably
  • Hopper, Google ITA, Rewards programs, Chase Rewards without building a balance, NextVacay, 

 

Marriage: 

  • Meeting her future hubby when she was not ready!
  • How they play as a “Good guy/Bad Guy” team in real estate
  • How they invest in their marriage
  • Once a month budget dates with Josh

 

Money:

  • The drastic change from wealthy with servants to having nothing and helping pay the bills at age 14
  • From growing up with servants and attending a private school to section eight housing and free school lunches
  • How “Tiger Mom” teaches her children the value of money

 

Culture:

  • How her childhood in India differed from her childhood in the States
  • Why Disha and her mother left India after her father died
  • Why Disha transformed her traditional Indian money mindset during her second maternity leave

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR DISHA SPATH

  1. If you are in consumer debt, use the debt snowball principle to climb out of debt and learn how to manage money without being too overwhelmed. Paying off the smallest bill can provide motivation and build up momentum to keep going. 
  2. Cut down the fixed costs (phone plans-switching carriers, cancel unused subscriptions, change grocery stores-from Expensive to Aldi & Walmart, downsize from a big house to renting a smaller place, moving closer to grandparents to help with childcare costs. 
  3. Raise your children without a silver spoon to teach them to know the importance of money and better equip them to be independent later in life.  
  4. Paying off student loans may or may not be your best financial decision. Although this was the right decision for her, she emphasizes that this is not a one size fits all answer. You have to look at your unique circumstances. Do you work for a public or private institution? What is your debt to income ratio? How do you feel about debt? Is it causing you anxiety or fear?



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I find the balance between being frugal and indulging in the good things
  • Do I ever find myself stuck in a scarcity mindset?
  • How can I travel in style on a budget?
  • Do I expect my spouse to take care of all the financials because of a cultural upbringing? If so, how is this serving me?
  • When I want to save money, how can I focus on fixed costs?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Website: thefrugalphysician.com 
  • Facebook: The Frugal Physician
  • Instagram: @thefrugalphysician 
  • Twitter: @thefrugalphysician
  • Pinterest: @thefrugalphysician

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: Physician Financial Services at doctorpodcastnetwork.com/larrykeller

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

 

Medicine: 

  • Meeting in Newfoundland during medical school after dating “another guy” most of medical school
  • What Karolyn told her classmate after their magical kiss in 4th year of med school

 

Marriage: 

  • The Proposal that did NOT happen at DisneyWorld
  • Why a Las Vegas elopement and a Big Catholic Wedding can both be good ideas

 

Money:

  • How they got into real estate and “unleashed the beast”
  • How “The Wealthy Barber” helped Karolyn get into a solid money mindset in residency

 

Culture:

  • How chicken feet and shark fin soup won the approval of her hubby’s grandmother
  • How food can win the heart of others when you do not speak the same language



TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. KAROLYN LEE

  1. If you go to Disney with your fiance and expect to get engaged, you may not enjoy the day as much especially if you are going to be expecting a ring at every corner. 
  2. Sometimes you need to hear advice from the right people before you take action. 
  3. Finding a money mentor could change the trajectory of your financial future. 



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Would I eat chicken feet for love?
  • How can I intentionally greet my spouse when they come home?
  • How can I unleash my beast?
  • Do I believe I am worthy?
  • How can I believe in myself and tell myself I am worthy every day?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW



*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: panaceafinancial.com

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

 

Medicine:

  • Why Tim wanted to practice rural medicine
  • What stalking a medical school classmate looks like
  • Leaving love notes during medical school
  • How having good mentors can make a huge difference
  • Where you grow is not in the roses 

 

Marriage: 

  • How a marriage can feel bigger than the individual
  • Living in a trailer like vagabonds after the birth of their second child?
  • How they worked through the “I don’t love you anymore” 
  • How Tim was her Knight in Shining Armour
  • Friendship was the foundation of her marriage

 

Love Languages:

  • Why knowing your needs is KEY
  • Why you need to learn to love yourself before loving your spouse
  • Why knowing your spouses needs is important
  • Whether marriages based on love or trust
  • How letting each other to do things separately builds trust



TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Drs. May & Tim Hindmarsh

  1. In a successful marriage, the relationship is often bigger than either person. 
  2. “God tells us to love our enemies, but I am not going to marry them.” Although love is elevating, marriage is not ONLY based on love.
  3. The gravity with which a relationship orbits is trust. Although I do not always agree with my spouse, do I trust them 100%. 
  4. It is getting through the hardships that make or break a relationship. The easy stuff…the fun stuff…the honeymoon stuff does not matter. We are ALL good at supporting our spouse through good times. It becomes more difficult to be supportive when the bad times roll in.



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Was I born at an early age??? (just kidding)
  • How do I model constructive conflict?
  • Where am I looking for happiness?
  • Could it be more freeing to stop looking for happiness and be okay with not being happy all the time?
  • Is happiness always my goal? If so, why?
  • Do I give myself permission to be unhappy?



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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • How you get into medical school with community college credits
  • How Carrie as a free-spirit found her place as a physician

 

Marriage: 

  • Meeting her future hubby at age 18 in college
  • Why Carrie thought her future hubby “ghosted her”
  • The benefits of being married to a medical spouse

 

Money/Real Estate:

  • Why buying a home is not just about how much you offer.
  • How to become a real estate agent
  • How she makes time to be a real estate agent and physician
  • Why the real estate market is so crazy right now in 2021
  • Why having a good team is 
  • What do the sellers need?
  • What is a trade-up?



TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Carrie Reynolds

  1. When you think someone has “ghosted” you, think again.
  2. Anyone can become a real estate agent. It’s what you do with the knowledge and how you work with a team that will make the difference. Same thing in marriage or in your job.
  3. How the “never stop learning” mentality has helped her 
  4. Why is making an offer not just about the numbers? Or the price… It’s about asking the seller What do they need??? Negotiating…is not about what you want….it is about what you can give…what you can bring to the table.


WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  •  Do I want to get into real estate? If so, do I want to become a relator and pursue a more active role or invest in passive real estate like many busy physicians do
  • Do I focus on the negatives or positives when it comes to being married to either a medical or non-medical spouse?
  • How can I create a lifestyle that meets my needs?
  • How can I best show up in my marriage so that it feels easy?



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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • A pediatrician promoting physician wellness for 20 years at a large HMO

 

Marriage: 

  • Going on her first date with her future hubby at age 15!!!! (future hubby was 14!!!)
  • How being long distance was good for their relationship
  • How she decided that her hubby was her person
  • When she accepted her hubby’s passive, introverted nature 

 

Money:

  • How growing up in a scarcity financial mentality and her hubby growing up in an abundance financial mentality has affected how they handle money together
  • Why money is not a good measure of love
  • The absence of financial discussions in her marriage and how and why this works
  • Why financial freedom is not the answer for her household

 

Mindfulness & Yoga:

  • How she brings mindfulness to coaching
  • Why yoga does not mean standing on her head
  • How accepting “what is” has enhanced her life

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Jessie Mahoney

  1. When feeling stuck, Jessie loves to ask herself two questions: 
    • What would love do?
    • What would compassion do? Love would let people show up exactly as they are. Sometimes we cannot fix things. Most of the time the other person needs to do the fixing and we can just love and have compassion. Having more compassion for herself would also allow her to grow from any situation in life regardless if other people would see it as a failure or argument or strain….
  2. The grass is greener where you water it!!!!! It is not necessarily better somewhere else.
  3. Boundaries come from love. 
  4. We spend a year planning our wedding and no time planning our marriage.



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What would love do?
  • What would compassion for me do?
  • What would compassion for my spouse do?
  • How can I be thoughtful about my money?
  • What message would I like to imprint upon this world?

 

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A Second Marriage Fairy Tale with Dr. Milene Argo

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • When a spouse thinks “being on-call” is something we do for ourselves
  • Going through divorce her last year of residency
  • Her Mother’s anti-western-medicine beliefs and how this has affected their relationship
  • Why she now “skips into work” to see her patients

 

Marriage: 

  • Redefining “her type” and her definition of husband potential
  • Falling in love with her personal trainer
  • Knowing when to leave and when to stay

 

Money:

  • Her new 2021 goal is to tackle personal finance!

 

Renewal:

  • How her personal trainer Eric rescued her, his persistence, and their magical kiss
  • Growing through the differences she had with her mother
  • Choosing growth discomfort over stuck discomfort

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Milene Argo

  1. Sometimes we fall in love with someone we would never expect. If we are constantly looking for a certain type of person, we may miss the love of our life directly in front of our eyes AND maybe they are ALREADY married to us! 
  2. Asking ourselves,  “Why would she/he say this to me?” Is NOT a helpful question. Instead, next time our spouse, mother-in-law, or friend says words to us, let’s ask ourselves instead, “What do I want to make that mean?” 
  3. Making assumptions about what people are thinking is dangerous. AND then making assumptions about how other people are feeling is also dangerous! AND THEN making assumptions that other people’s thoughts and feelings mean something about us is the MOST dangerous of all!!!! So next time we catch ourselves in this funny mind drama, let’s ask what we would rather spend our time and energy focusing on….someone else’s thoughts and feelings over which we have no control, or our own?



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How do I tell my love story? Is it a fairy tale or a horror story?
  • Do I allow myself to love me every day?
  • Do I give myself credit for how far I’ve come?
  • What are my main sources of motivation?
  • Am I choosing the discomfort of growth or the discomfort of being stuck?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • “The talk” Senior Resident Dr. Rupa gave her future hubby during his first week as an ophthalmology resident and why he was scared of her!
  • How the business consultant they hired to assess the ophthalmology practice influenced their family plan
  • How owning and operating a private practice together every day works for them

 

Marriage: 

  • Their first kiss out of nowhere on New Year’s Eve
  • How they blended of 3 different cultures on their wedding day at a Hawaiian destination wedding
  • How she invests in her marriage

 

Money:

  • Why sitting down to do a 10-year plan helps a couple evaluate what is most important
  • Why she bought her first Chanel purse at age 40
  • Placing her value on her time

 

Social Media

  • How and why she got started on Instagram
  • Why the people you surround yourself will help you rise to the occasion
  • What gave her the motivation and encouragement to create the virtual community she envisioned 



TAKE HOME POINTS FROM RUPA

  1. Being a business owner could be the best financial opportunity for you and your family. Not only does this impact your finances if you set up a smart financial plan, but this also allows you to have a more flexible family life. Keep in mind, these opportunities do not arise at the most comfortable times. 
  2. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. Instead of telling yourself, I can’t do this, you will start saying “Why can’t I do this?”
  3. You will find where you fit. “Never underestimate the power of a community of women who collaborate instead of competing.” The motto of her attending lounge. How this inspires Rupa on a daily basis. 
  4. Hiring a cook and housekeeper is cheaper than a divorce attorney 
  5. Do not let fear deter you from what you can truly achieve



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How honest am I about what I want?
  • Where do I go for inspiration on a daily basis?
  • What are some more systems I can put into place in my household to avoid contention with my spouse?
  • Am I open to uncomfortable opportunities?
  • Do I have faith in myself?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • When she knew she wanted to be a physician
  • How her time in the spent hospital during residency affected her first marriage
  • Having a spouse who understands being “on-call”

 

Marriage: 

  • Meeting on Match.com and a first date at Starbucks
  • Falling in love with a generous heart
  • Her thoughts when the marriage counselor told her SHE had things to work on

 

Money:

  • How her spouse and her views on money are drastically different
  • The ultimatum she gave her fiance regarding her financial goals

 

Divorce:

  • Why the SAME premarital counseling questions she never completed during her first marriage, she did on her second marriage
  • Getting married in 20s after medical school because “this is what you do”
  • The biggest challenge in her first marriage
  • The difference between focusing on oneself versus the ex during divorce

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM TRINA

  1. When we think we are going to marriage counseling for our spouse (and not ourselves), things will NOT get better. We all have things to work on, so let us focus only on working on what we can control….OURSELVES.  What to find happiness, love, and appreciation in your marriage, find it on your own first.
  2. Trina tells us NOT to ever feel stuck in a terrible relationship. If you can find joy and happiness on your own and feel constantly stuck in a horrible situation, reevaluate your reasons for staying. If the two of you have truly grown apart or were never right for each other in the first place, why stay in an unhealthy environment? Remaining in a terrible relationship (after working on oneself) is not more comfortable than leaving which may seem very uncomfortable. Which hurts more? Which has the potential to add more discomfort….staying in silence, resentment, or venturing out alone into the unknown….into a new world of possibilities. This being said, don’t leave in order to find happiness. Find happiness in yourself first…once you have found that, if the relationship in itself is lacking, give yourself permission to start from scratch
  3. Although divorce is NEVER fun, there is life after divorce! Going through a divorce is like going through a period grief. It is a loss even if YOU are the one who chose to leave, but it can still be so much better on the other end after you allow yourself to heal. Shifting the focus onto healing yourself and away from making ex feel bad or regret their actions or inactions will cause the pain to subside at a more manageable level. Focus on healing. 



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I have self-confidence? Do I look to my partner for confidence?
  • What is the difference between self-confidence and confidence?
  • Where do I go to find happiness? Inside myself or in my relationships?
  • Is it better for me to stay or to go?
  • Do I understand the money mindset of my spouse? If our views on money differ, how can I better understand their story?
  • If and when I ever say goodbye to someone I have been in a relationship with, where is my focus on me or on them? On healing myself or on hurting them?



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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • Meeting for the first time in anatomy lab
  • What it was like searching for a job in the same field
  • Why Sanjay says “It really does get better” for the trainees

Marriage: 

  • How to maintain open lines of communication while keeping judgment out of it
  • Why learning how to fight with each other is key
  • How Sanjay unknowingly spread the bread crumbs for Matt before the proposal

Money:

  • How they maximized their travel dollars as residents
  • How they handled the transition of income from residency to attending
  • The differences between how they grew up and how they viewed their increase in salary

Surrogacy:

  • The “hurry up and wait” process
  • What the interview process for surrogacy looks like
  • Keeping in contact with the surrogate 
  • The mental energy involved in planning to have a surrogate
  • What the relationship with their surrogate might look like after the birth

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM MATT AND SANJAY

  1. We can always improve how we fight with our spouse. What we say and what our spouse hears may be significantly different. So let us slow down the argument. Figure out what our partner is hearing rather than continuing to push our side of the argument.  Sanjay also says to Keep judgment to ourselves and listen to what our partner is hearing. Keep an open mind and approach it from how can I show up as the best version of myself in this situation. 
  2. If you are a trainee listening know that “It really does get better.” All those feelings of inadequacy and questions like “do I belong?” , “why am I doing this?”, and “is this really what I want to do for the rest of my life?” are NORMAL!!!!! A lot of trainees think these thoughts yet may not be expressing them out loud.  I would like to add if you feel this way now, reach out to someone you can confide in.  A mentor or close friend. We are not alone, my friends. 
  3. Sanjay gave us a beautiful example of how we can all learn to be more responsible with money. Observe. Learn from those around you. He watched a close family member make more money than he could ever imagine and then lose it. Sanjay walks away from this with foresight and the determination to start planning for his retirement immediately after training if not during it. He could have chosen to perpetuate this cycle…done what those before him did….but he has decided to take control of his finances and prepare his family  What can you learn from those around you? 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How have I grown with my partner over the years?
  • How has my love for my partner evolved over time?
  • How has being with my partner during the pandemic been better than if I were to have been alone?
  • Am I spending my income on things that bring me joy?

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SPONSOR: Michael at doctorpodcastnetwork.com/mrinsurance or contact him at 800-817-4522

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • Eric’s plan to get noticed by Marcy at the bookstore and sharing a microscope
  • How Eric broke his arm during medical school
  • Why returning to medicine after the loss of Andy looked different for each of them

Marriage: 

  • What Andy ate before marriage and why they likely got married so quickly
  • How they supported each other through the grieving
  • Supporting each others’ podcasts 

Money:

  • Why we need to “Thank God for the accountant” and how this helped on Eric’s journey of healing
  • Why we need to all have an emergency fund

Grief:

  • Why accept the feelings during grieving
  • How anger and guilt can become poisons
  • Why forgiveness matters and how forgiving is so powerful 

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE LARSONS

  1. Loss and grief are universal. We all experience some sort of loss and grief at some point in our lives. Whether we are going through the loss of a young child, an older child, a parent, or a spouse, it hurts. It is absolutely painful. It just feels wrong. There is no sense in comparing which experience or which loss is worse. We are all on our own journey and that is okay. We can still go through our own journey alongside the support and companionship of others. No need to compare. Just accept that it is hard. Be aware that this is normal.   
  2. If we cannot forgive others, we have often not forgiven ourselves. 
  3. Sometimes what is right for us is not right for our spouse. Our answers do not have to be everyone’s answers. This is normal. Once you accept this and learn to just be present and supportive in whatever way is needed, the pain may worsen. 
  4. Telling our children they are enough.



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I sincerely ask for forgiveness when it truly matters?
  • How can I forgive myself when I need compassion and grace?
  • How do I process grief?
  • What does my emergency fund look like?

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If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • How she fell forward from her first attending job into something powerful
  • Why she decided to work for Doctors without Borders in Cambodia, Uganda & Kenya

 

Marriage: 

  • How she stays curious in her marriage 
  • Bonding over the shoe size, toastmasters, humanitarian, and a shared burger on the first date
  • On which day of dating he said, “I love you” 

 

Money:

  • Fertility costs and how you never know how many years you will need to plan into the fertility journey
  • Why she cares about learning the finances although her hubby does most of the spreadsheets
  • How her real estate interests have evolved 

 

Fertility:

  • Their brief separation because of different child/baby wants
  • Her journey through multiple miscarriages, IUI, IVF,
  • What it means to “have my own back” during her fertility journey
  • Discovering physician empowerment
  • What moving through pain looks like to Maneesha  

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR MANEESHA AHLUWALIA

  1. Being excited about pregnancy does not make the pain any worse during a miscarriage. It is still painful. It was always going to be as painful. Allowing the emotion of excitement during the initial phases of the pregnancy journey does make it MORE painful than it would have otherwise been without the excitement. Avoiding the pain forever is impossible. Feeling the pain and moving through the pain is the goal.
  2. We are not victims of what happens in life. Every decision, every path, every emotion we experience is a choice. Doctors may say funny things. Friends may say odd things. Nurses, family, and coworkers may say strange things. They often just want to say something, but do not know what to say? Why? Because everyone needs to hear different things. So, it does not matter what people say. Do not be a victim of the words or actions of others. We can choose how we interpret the words of others. We have the power to choose what to hear. 
  3. When someone in our life may be experiencing miscarriage, fertility issues, or child loss, these are things we can say: I am here for you. I am listening to you. You get to think what you are thinking. You get to feel what you are feeling. We can talk about it or we do not need talk about it.



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How do I stay curious in my marriage or relationship?
  • How can I stop being a victim of other people’s words? 
  • Am I telling myself that I am doing enough today?
  • How can I be more comfortable in my own skin today?
  • Do I fear getting too excited in my journey because I fear disappointment and failure? 

 

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I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

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If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • Working three jobs before medical school 
  • Her love-hate relationship with medicine 
  • Avoiding asking questions about maternity leave on the job trail.

Marriage: 

  • How she and Dan continued to choose each other over and over again
  • How we can create change for the better in medicine
  • Accepting their differences 

Money:

  • Sharing money since they were children
  • What they consider a shared money mentality
  • Treating money as a tool
  • Being in sync on what is financially responsible and having open communication
  • How she felt about spending money on IVF, which never comes with guaranteed results. 

Fertility:

  • Forgiving medicine and her career path during fertility challenges 
  • When these conversations do not happen during medical education
  • Kate’s initial confusion when Dan’s thoughts were different from hers during her roller coaster of emotions  

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. KATE HAPPOCK

  1. How to create change in medicine. Especially when it comes to maternity leave, breastfeeding, parental obligations, work-life integration…. Starts with small conversations and supporting our colleagues. Let us be the cheerleader for our fellow physicians. Let us build each other up. Let us check on each other. Let us NOT engage in conversations that focus on degrading each other as those rarely build anything construction and definitely do not help our patients or health care in general If it is the change we want, regardless if it is for our patients, for our staff, or for our fellow physician colleagues, we can start by focusing on all the small things we can do each day. Daily conversations, compassion, and support. 
  2. Our worth as physicians is not tied to how many hours we work each day or how many days a week we spend in the hospital or in the clinic. We are ALL high achievers, so stop judging, stop shaming, and start valuing each minute, each moment we care for patients, for ourselves, our for our families. 
  3. When our spouse has different feelings from us about any life circumstance, this does NOT minimize ours and vice versa. We are each allowed to have our own thoughts about everything. We are each on our own journey. I distinctly remember the first year Victor and I were trying to get pregnant and each time I got my period I would cry and he would not and I honestly did NOT understand how he was not in pain and sadness like I was. I did not understand then what now. I truly appreciate Dr. Hoppock’s wisdom when it comes to allowing these differences in emotions that will inevitably arrive along the journey of life.  

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Am I choosing love every day?
  • How do I value my worth as a physician?
  • How can I accept the differences between my experience and my spouse’s experiences during the same journey?  
  • How do I define the story of my life?
  • How can I have more self-compassion for myself? 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • The first time teachers did not seem to care about the students learning
  • Why the Dean of her Medical school supported her pregnancy and child leave during medical school
  • Meeting her future spouse in medical school as she turned pages for a concert pianist
  • Her surprise when she was not as satisfied in her physician career as she had expected
  • Why she and her hubby each took a year off from medical school

Marriage: 

  • Why the foundation of their relationship is devotion to personal growth
  • How sharing your truth changes your marriage
  • How falling in love can look different
  • How having divorced parents initially influenced how she thought about the trajectory of her marriage

Money:

  • Moving to rural Kansas for two years to get ahead financially

Intimacy:

  • Why it is important to remember what drew you to your spouse

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. ALEXANDRA STOCKWELL

  1. Every interaction or non-interaction between our spouse and us is either moving us towards connection or driving us away from connection. Enhance every moment in order to foster more love and this will result in a more intimate relationship.
  2. Be authentic. Hiding or walking on eggshells does not lead to connection. Figure out a way to regain friendship and love and if WE cannot do this on our own, maybe it is time to consider seeking help. 
  3. Discovering what the foundation of our relationship with our spouse is may draw us closer to them and foster more connection. What is it? For Dr. Stockwell, she took us on her journey of their devotion to each other’s personal growth. Imagine how our relationship could enter the next level if we invited this concept into our lives and relationships.

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What drew me to my spouse or my partner?
  • What bothers me about my spouse and how can I transform my bother to something more helpful for our relationship?
  • How can I bring up difficult conversations in a non-threatening way?
  • How can I create more emotional intimacy in my relationship?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

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I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions or suggestions!

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

  • Her transition from OB/GYN residency to Internal Medicine residency
  • Her unicorn career seeing 28 patients a day for 5 years for only gynecologic concerns
  • Common issues MeLanie saw as an internist specializing in pelvic pain

Marriage: 

  • Why the words “Eugene” and “rocket scientist” sparked her interest while on-line dating 
  • The devotion MeLanie’s future husband showered upon her only a month after meeting
  • Why she knew he was the one after 3 months and wanted him to propose after 6 months of dating

Money:

  • The financial discussion between her and her hubby when she transitioned from Internal Medicine Physician to Sex Counselor 

Sex:

  • How the mind-body connection affects sex
  • How to communicate in bed
  • Why acknowledging a partner’s emotions are key
  • Why assuming a spouse has the best intentions works 
  • What natural avoidance is
  • Why pelvic pain may cause guilt, shame, & confusion 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. MELANIE MODJOROS

  1. Take responsibility for every emotion regarding love and intimacy. We have the power to make things better or worse. If we feel stuck and are not actively working towards making things, better, chances are they may be getting worse. Let us not be afraid to talk openly about our feelings with our partner using I statements while fully clothed. This may be hard and uncomfortable and that is okay. If unsure where to start, seek help from a professional.
  2. The biggest determining factor for wanting to have sex again is the feelings we have at the end of the last sexual encounter.
  3. People always say, “Sex was so easy when we were young and it was never scheduled.”, the truth is, it usually WAS scheduled, we just didn’t think of it that way because the words “SEX DATE” were not on our google calendar. We usually just got dolled up or manned up, shaved our legs or face, and went out on a Friday night or Saturday night date! It is OKAY to schedule sex….call it anything….cocktail night, cuddle night, snuggle puppy party time as one of my dear friends calls it.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I take responsibility for my feelings?
  • Do I communicate what I want in bed and why?
  • Do I assume my partner has the best intentions at heart?
  • Do I believe in any sex myths such as “Men always want sex” or “A man’s erection equals his attraction to me?” If so, why?
  • Would scheduling sex be helpful for my marriage?
  • Do I enjoy sex?
  • Does my spouse enjoy sex?
  • How can we enhance our sex life?

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER ON THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

  • Why she did not want to marry a surgeon
  • Being told in urology residency “Women are complicated”
  • Why she prefers the pelvis over the neck

Marriage: 

  • Meeting while he was in Armenia and she was in Uganda
  • He is her rock and her calm
  • How love languages can help any relationship

Money:

  • Having quarterly meetings about finance 
  • Her scarcity mindset and his abundance mindset
  • What her financial splurge are

Sex Myths:

  • T or F: Most of sex-education is fear-based
  • T or F: Sex is supposed to be easy.
  • T or F: Why spontaneous desire does not just happen
  • T or F: There is normal sexual desire.
  • T or F: The answer to good sex life is a good glass of wine

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM KELLY

  1. No one can give you more sexual desire. This comes from within. Discovering your limiting beliefs.
  2. Don’t treat your spouse like you treat your employees (if you are a surgeon or demanding of your employees)
  3. Don’t try to change your spouse. The love that can be created from loving them exactly the way they are is infinite.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Is sex easy for us? 
  • Am I having bad sex?
  • Do I enjoy sex?
  • Do I try to change my spouse?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Going back to work as a pediatric emergency physician after Asher’s death
  • What made RoseAnn a more empathetic physician
  • Realizing the Post-traumatic stress at work

Marriage: 

  • Not dependent or independent. Children of God. When 2 become one flesh.
  • Meeting in a dingy night club
  • Why RoseAnn tried to cancel their first date
  • RoseAnn’s qualifications before John could propose
  • How RoseAnn almost “destroyed” her own proposal
  • How bedrest was romantic
  • Faith as the cornerstone of marriage

Asher:

  • How having children makes you realize you are no longer in control
  • Being in complete shock after the findings of Asher’s 20-week ultrasound
  • How Asher deepened their faith and strengthened their relationship
  • The overwhelming sense of peace in the Scheller house
  • How silence can be hurtful

Grieving:

  • Never stop praying
  • Feeling defeated and abandoned, yet knowing, “All I know is you exist”
  • Realizing that feeling debilitated for days is okay 

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE SCHELLERS

  1. If you have faith, there will be no suffering without purpose.
  2. Worry only takes away from the minutes you have in the present time. When we spend our time worrying or anxious over whatever small or huge thing we are going through in life, it is important to remember, we are choosing worry over any other emotion which could be available to us in that moment. 
  3. Be good to yourself. Be good to the people around you. It’s Grace during times of suffering and difficulty that is so important.  It’s a season. It will not last forever.
  4. Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Said like a TURE Pediatric Emergency Physician. If you plan for the worst, you can handle ANYTHING. Yet if you hope for the BEST, you always maintain the ability to keep your mind somewhere peaceful. 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • When it comes to raising or caring for my children, how control am I?
  • What could I be choosing to do with my mental space, instead of worrying?
  • Do I ask for space when I need it? How can I do this more often?
  • What helps me get through difficult times? Is it faith, love, my spouse, a schedule?
  • When I am in uncomfortable situations, particularly one of suffering or pain for someone else, how can I start the dialogue?
  • Can I see the joy through my suffering? 

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Facebook: RoseAnn John Scheller  

Happy Birthday to Asher in Heaven.

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • From Pediatric Radiologist to Sex Coach and Sexual Counselor 
  • The importance of providing medical students and residents with the skill-set to prevent burnout as you are recruiting them into medicine
  • How she grew into the doctor she wanted to become during residency instead of just pushing through it 

Relationship: 

  • Taking 100% responsibility for your sex life. When you don’t do this, you will just take your old and current problems to your next relationship.
  • Keys to co-parenting outside of an intimate relationship
  • Why using more “I” statements instead of accusatory statements

Sex:

  • Whose responsibility is it anyway
  • What does it really mean to take 100% responsibility
  • What is to-do list sex
  • The cost of not addressing your sexual fears
  • How a feeling is the worst thing that can happen
  • What is choreplay

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Sonia Wright 

  1. Sexual intimacy is your responsibility. Not your partner’s responsibility.
  2. Get clear on what is important to you and your partner. You don’t have to suffer in silence. If you are, ask yourself what that is costing you.
  3. Sex is supposed to be fun! You get to define sexual intimacy the way you want it in your life! 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Am I suffering in silence? What is this costing me right now?
  • Do I have to-do list sex or for-me sex?
  • Am I comfortable having uncomfortable conversations with my partner?
  • What do I want the sexual energy in my relationship to look like?

 

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*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Her premed prerequisites and change in plans after advice from her physician hubby
  • Her thoughts about dating a medical student, resident, and attending
  • Her journey as a parent of a 10 week-old baby diagnosed with a hepatic tumor

Marriage: 

  • How she met her anesthesiologist hubby
  • Their belief in each other and unwavering support 
  • Why working through disagreements may be the most beneficial choice

Money:

  • How they decide how much to donate to which charities
  • The smartest financial (and non-financial) decision she had ever made 
  • How the “soft space” allows her to take big risks for big rewards

Real Estate: 

  • How the pandemic has affected her decisions as a multifamily investor
  • Pricing changes in real estate during the pandemic
  • Why relationships are key in the success of a real estate investor 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM VEENA 

  1. Believing and supporting your spouse allows them to believe even more in themselves and this is what we want. We want to watch our spouse to be successful in whatever that means to them. 
  2. Find a partner that is good at something you are not good at so that you can collaborate and grow.
  3. Her businesses are successful because she focuses on the relationship side of her business more than anything else. She doesn’t mind giving up a little bit today to be successful in the future. We can all win as a team. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Is my spouse my best friend?
  • Do we have or need a check in amount for spending on frivolous things?
  • Do I have donation rituals?
  • Why do I choose to be married to my spouse everyday?
  • Am I a soft space for my partner to land?
  • Do I collaborate or compete?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • How we met at orientation, during the first day of internship
  • What a Radiation Oncologist does
  • The difference between protons and X-rays
  • Kate’s strict rules for Victor during her 3-month radiology board preparation

Marriage: 

  • Falling in love at first sight and then again 4 years later
  • Our proposal story at Disney
  • How we dealt with losing an au pair and finding the perfect nanny during the pandemic

Money:

  • How we won one year of free frozen yogurt
  • Why Victor became interested in learning about finances

Extra:

  • How coaching changed Victor’s life
  • Why defining marriage, career and financial goals are so important 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Her Psychiatrist perspective on life coaches Tony Robbins and Brooke Castillo

Marriage: 

  • Meeting and bonding over their three German Shepherds
  • How to take a relationship to the next level
  • Why her hubby’s needs are her needs
  • The importance of knowing that relationships will ebb and flow 

Money:

  • How she became financially free before the end of residency
  • How they purchased her engagement ring without debt
  • Why Elaine became her hubby’s first investor
  • How they teach their children to value family and money

Extra:

  • How they became accidental landlords
  • How fear and excitement can feel similar in your body.
  • How they tackle their big goals together

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Stageberg

  1. Make your spouse’s needs your needs. If this happens both ways, you can take your relationship to the next level. 
  2. Growing your entrepreneurial side is usually not comfortable the first or second time you do it. If you are thinking about becoming a landlord or investing in something you have never invested in before, know that it is NORMAL to NOT be comfortable.
  3. Even if there is suffering and even when there is hurt, commit to do it together. 
  4. Outsourcing is so important! Anything that is not each other, their children, medicine, or their business, they outsource. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Are my partner’s needs my needs?
  • How much of my life could change or could have changed in one second? And how much gratitude do I have for what I have right now?
  • Do I value security or freedom more? Does my spouse value security or freedom more? If this is different for us, how can we allow these to compliment each other?
  • Do I believe that having a nanny means someone else is raising my children? 
  • Do I believe having help at home makes one snooty?
  • How can I create the home environment I want?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Finding love at the hospital

Marriage: 

  • Knowing who the most important person in your life is
  • What made Leti different from every other girl
  • “Stacking” and how criticism can destroy a relationship
  • What people tend to overvalue and undervalue in a relationship
  • How what you say in your head affects your relationship
  • The three “C”s and three “U”s
  • How expectations can get you into trouble
  • The 90 Days of Serving without any expectations belief 
  • How to treat your marriage like a thriving business

Money:

  • Why divorce was her smartest financial decision
  • How starting with the outcome in mind makes every decision easy
  • How having a business mission statement makes money
  • The importance of having mutual money goals

Confidence/Extra:

  • Why confidence attracted them to each other 
  • What being in a beautiful state means
  • Why bing creative and caring is so important
  • What priming is  
  • Constantly moving forward even when feeling terrified
  • Self-confidence comes from doing hard things
  • Turning “I Can’t” to “How can I?”
  • The meaning you give everything that happens in your life

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Drs. Leti & Kenji

  1. Become aware of the manual you have for our spouse. 
  2. Marriage can be easy, yet you can always strive to get better.
  3. Find 3 days a year you can spend with only your spouse to work only on the marriage. Figure out where you want the relationship to go and what you want to work on.
  4. Be aware of the three “C”s of masculine energy: Control, Criticism, Closed. And the three “U”s of feminine energy: Unseen, Unsafe, and “Ununderstood”.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I respect my spouse’s individuality?
  • Am I aware of the manual I have for my spouse?
  • Who do I make a priority in my life?
  • Do I enjoy telling the story of how I met my spouse?
  • Do I assume my spouse will always be there? Do I take them for granted? If so, how is this affecting our relationship?
  • Where do I want my relationship to go in 2021?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Website: https://semiretiredmd.com/
  • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/semiretiredphysicians
  • Instagram: @semiretiredmd

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • How do decrease burnout in medicine

Marriage: 

  • Bonding over the loss of family members and friends
  • How he spoke about other women and what that meant to Latifat
  • The perfect proposal before her graduation from medical school
  • Their long distance relationship

Money:

  • Why a live-in Granny Nanny is worth every penny
  • The guidelines of the post bedtime money dates
  • The most expensive thing to them

Parenting:

  • Whoever wakes up first, gets in trouble.
  • “Mommy teaches people how to use money for good.”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE AKINTADES

  1. Keep things simple. Schedule a regular time and place to meet for a weekly date so that you don’t have to think about anything else except being with your hunny. 
  2. Go on money dates with guidelines, curiosity and no judgement. 
  3. Money has no emotions. Money only has the emotions you give it.
  4. Relationships…are NOT something that happen, they are something that is CREATED. 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Am I emotional about money?
  • Do I think of purchases or debt as good or bad or as increasing or decreasing my net worth and how does this subtle change affect my mindset?
  • Do I approach my student loans from a place of gratitude or a place of fear? Do I demonize my medical school loans?
  • Do I pay my debt down from a place of scarcity or a place of abundance? How would this make a difference?
  • Do I take calculated risks?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • The downsides and upsides of not being in a Dermatology practice 
  • Thinking about the experience from the patient perspective
  • Changing her thought from “I cannot find a job because of this pandemic” to “How can I still make money although I cannot get a job as a Dermatologist during the pandemic” 

Marriage: 

  • Your partner is not responsible for your happiness
  •  
  • After graduating residency, she had dates lined up before she even moved to New York
  • Her “speed dating” journey
  • The magic lightning bolt
  • What is the rush to know the answer?

Money:

  • Why being engaged for several years has been a financial decision
  • How she feels about being the breadwiner
  • How her thoughts about what income her spouse should make have evolved
  • Why utilizing the money you make as physician is your superpower

Extra:

  • Allowing yourself to be a beginner
  • Living your dream
  • Using your superpower

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. BONNIE KOO

  1. Always pay yourself first!!!! 
  2. As a physician entrepreneur (or not), KNOW, you don’t have to figure it all out yourself. Your superpower is the ability to hire help!
  3. Feeling anxious about money has NOTHING to do with how much money you have in your bank account or investment account.
  4. The key to happiness is knowing you will ALWAYS BE OKAY because YOU will ALWAYS have your back! 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I believe I can just figure it all out myself?
  • Am I in a rush to find out answers in my life? Why?
  • Do I feel anxious or stressed about money? If so, when will this change?
  • How can I make more money or make my money work for me?
  • Do I allow myself to be a beginner when trying new things or adventures?
  • Am I meant for something more?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Website: wealthymommd.com
  • Facebook: WealthyMomMD
  • Instagram: @wealthyMomMD

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Falling in love the first few months of medical school
  • How the shift from medical school to education Masters and PhD helped them grow together 
  • Remembering why he went into medicine and plastic surgery

Marriage: 

  • Meeting someone who pushes and challenges the other person
  • When he took an interest in what she loved
  • How they act as each other accountability partners

Money:

  • The evolution away from a fearful relationship with finances
  • The realization they were spending their paychecks each month 
  • Selenid’s original thoughts about real estate investing 
  • The smartest financial decision they ever made

Mindset:

  • Why are you telling yourself that story?
  • The TWO steps of any big adventure
  • Embracing your fears

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM JORDAN AND SELENID

  1. So when it comes to you and your spouse, do not hesitate to prioritize each other’s goals and passions! It will only strengthen your marriage.
  2. When your spouse comes to you with what you think is a crazy idea (i.e. investing in RE or running an Airbnb in your own home), do you say “Are you crazy” or do you say “Tell me more”. Jordan and Selenid suggest trying out the latter for loving reasons:) Try it out, friends. Get curious. Unless you are wanting severe consequences, go ahead and get curious before crushing dreams and killing the sparks. 
  3. Having 1, 5, and 10-year goals helps your marriage and your mindset. MINDSET is SO IMPORTANT. Why are you telling yourself that story?? Remember, this is not a natural question for most of us…so please please work on asking yourself this question daily…about all your thoughts!!! I promise. This will be a game-changer. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • What type of relationship do I have with my paycheck?
  • Do I prioritize my spouse’s interests and passions as much as my own or more?
  • Do I believe having or wanting money makes me selfish?
  • Am I doing things I think I cannot do??? If not, when can I start?
  • What is the smartest financial decision I plan to make this year?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Jordan:

Selenid:

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • The shock, sadness, and action created after a visit to her OB/GYN at the age of 35

Marriage: 

  • How to allow your spouse to grow into the best version of themselves
  • Why unconditional love is NOT a condition
  • How her traumatic bicycle accident affected her marriage
  • Why it only takes ONE person to make your relationship better

Money:

  • Why they aggressively paid down their debt and borrowed all the baby things
  • What dipping her toes into real estate looks like
  • Her hubby’s thoughts of the $297 boxes she received in the mail

Mantra:

“There will be no bad days.”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM SUNNY

  1. Recognize what you can control and recognize what you cannot control. Chances are if you are suffering in your relationship, so is your partner…so the question becomes…how do you decrease your own suffering? 
  2. Am I arguing with reality….Am I agonizing….ruminating or regretting a part of my past or present instead of being grateful for your present  What do I already have that I take for granted? 
  3. How am I trying to change my spouse? Maybe nothing major…but something small. And in doing so…am I stealing my spouse’s joy? 
  4. It only takes one person to make the relationship better.

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • If my spouse was not here at this moment, how would I find a way?
  • When it gets ugly…when the times get tough….because it will, how will I be here for my spouse, for me, and for us?
  • What if today was the last day I had on earth? How would I spend it? What would I say or do with my spouse? What would I be grateful for?
  • What am I bringing to my marriage?
  • Is my happiness dependent on my spouse filling my cup?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Website: Empoweringwomenphysicians.com
  • Podcast: Empowering Women Physicians
  • Facebook: Empowering Women Physicians
  • Instagram: @EmpoweringWomenPhysicians

 

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • How Ni-Cheng’s cancer diagnosis during fellowship affected her relationship with medicine
  • How taking a year off medicine helped her heal internally and externally
  • How to thrive in medicine
  • How she returned to medicine after changing her relationship with herself

Marriage 

  • Meeting her hubby in 8th grade at the East Asian Volleyball circuit
  • Her first impression of her hubby and his Red Honda Del Sol
  • When her hubby knew Ni-Cheng was the one
  • How her hubby expressed his love to her through “car talk”
  • The devotion he showed while driving her to and from every single chemo appointment

Money:

  • The balance of buying nice things and delayed gratification
  • Taking deep breaths before making a purchase
  • Need is a subjective word

Mindfulness:

  • Embody what you teach
  • Reframing difficult experiences as opportunities for learning
  • Paying attention on purpose to the present moment at anytime or anywhere
  • Breath, Attend, and Transition to more skillful action

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Ni-Cheng Liang

  1. Provide unconditional support for your spouse’s hobbies and interests regardless of how random they are. Investing in each other in a way that provides space and unconditional love will pay off in the end. 
  2. You owe it to yourself and to your spouse to prioritize taking care of yourself so that you can show up authentically and be fully present for your loved ones and patients. 
  3. Mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment at any time or anywhere. You can even do it now! Notice your breath, name what you are feeling, notice your thoughts and  transition to greater skillful action as opposed to reaction. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I work on my relationship with myself so that I can thrive in medicine?
  • How is uncertainty, fear, and anxiety affecting the care of my patients? 
  • Can I make my profession of love a game?
  • How do I show myself compassion?
  • How can I reframe my thoughts so that difficult experiences become learning opportunities?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

  • Website: https://www.ncliangmd.com/
  • Facebook: Ni-Cheng Liang
  • Instagram: @ncliangmd
  • Twitter: drnichengliang
  • YoutTube: Awaken Breath 

 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Her resistance to dating the chief radiology resident 
  • Her thoughts on the quantity over quality shift at her practice
  • When her arms became numb during breast biopsies

Marriage: 

  • Friendship as the cornerstone of a marriage
  • Understanding how someone needs to be loved
  • Supporting your partner as they grow although you may not be growing in the same way
  • How her husband supports her yoga journey without actually doing yoga with her

Money:

  • Why being a saver and investor in residency helped her make the decision to leave medicine
  • Their two accounts; the investment account and the fun account
  • The desire to never spend more than they had
  • The Karma check she received the day after signing up for yoga therapy school

Yoga Therapy:

  • Her initial thoughts about how weird yogis were
  • How her interest in yoga therapy began
  • How neurophysiology can be controlled by evidence-based yoga practices
  • How to find peace in chaos
  • Why she does not associate yoga with fitness

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM ROBYN

  1. Find gratitude before you even get out of bed. 
  2. BREATHE….there is a reason why people tell us to breathe when we are stressed out. Breaths can elevate your mood, calm you down, Warm you, and cool you
  3. We invest and save because our DREAM job NOW….may NOT be our DREAM job in 15 years.
  4. It is not having what you want, it is wanting what you have.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Is stress causing my physical ailments? If so, how can I learn how to respond instead of reacting to my stress?
  • How can I find gratitude before I even get out of bed in the morning?
  • Do I have what I want or want what I have?
  • Do I feel stuck in my job? If so, why am I choosing to feel this way?
  • How can I approach my day in a more calm way although everything around me maybe chaos?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Ali & Mark’s conversation on the first day of medical school
  • Assumptions people make when you are married to a  psychiatrist and then the reality

Marriage: 

  • Mark’s answer to Ali’s screening question “What sport did I play in high school?”
  • How independent spousal goals coexist inside the big common marriage goal
  • Why awareness is key when the relationship is not being prioritized  

Money:

  • How coming from similar giving families contributes to their shared money mindset 
  • Why the joint Novitsky bank account made sense before marriage
  • What Ali hopes to achieve by investing in a business coach

Physician Entrepreneur:

  • How Mark’s encouragement creates a greater sense of Ali’s belief in herself
  • The flexibility of having one’s own business
  • The “coach high” every time a client has a breakthrough
  • Why her youngest child thinks she is a youtube star
  • How actions HUGELY influence our children…we are their HEROES…they see us and want to do what we do!!!

 TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Ali & MARK

  1. Create a space that lends to couple engagement.
  2. Train your children to respect Parent time! 
  3. Budget for Extras.
  4. The moment you commit to your own health, your confidence will soar. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Why are our common goals? And what are your independent goals inside our bigger common goal?
  • Have I trained my children to be respectful of my “me time”
  • How is my life serving as an example for my children or nieces or nephews?
  • How am I creating an exciting and trusting environment for our relationship?
  • How am I taking care of my body?

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Her rules on dating a medical school classmate and why this changed
  • Expectations women physicians place on themselves

Marriage: 

  • The emotional vending machine
  • How to find time for your spouse during training 
  • The transition to parenthood and recruiting help

Money:

  • How a toilet cleaning wand brought awareness of her money scarcity
  • Why money means freedom
  • How you can afford anything, but not everything

Extra:

  • How to differentiate what is happening from what we think is happening
  • Why she rarely if ever struggles with Mom guilt

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DEVON

  1. Your spouse is NOT an Emotional Vending Machine.   
  2. When you have money, you have freedom.
  3. Next time you think “I just want to live life on your own terms”, recognize that you already are! Own it!

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I place expectations upon myself because I think others are expecting things of me?
  • Do I treat my spouse like an emotional vending machine?
  • What are things I spend money on that truly bring me joy?
  • What do I need for myself to be the best and most loving spouse and mother?
  • How am I Iiving life on my own terms?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Her views on being part-time in medicine 
  • Why a pause is needed for health care professionals
  • How “Physicians Living Intentionally” reenergizes  

Marriage:

  • How they first met and then when they reconnected 9 years later 
  • Why timing is everything
  • Infatuation and what she saw flash through her head during a car accident 

Money:

  1. How she takes charge of the finances  
  2. What percentages of their income they save and spend
  3. The smartest financial decision she has ever made in her life

The Permission: 

  • How to define the gap in a relationship
  • How to know when to leave a nontoxic relationship
  • When she asked herself “Is this my happily ever after?”
  • Why she gave herself permission

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM FARYAL

  1. Why the smartest decision you may ever make in your life could potentially be marrying your spouse. And not for superficial reasons like income…
  2. Sometimes we may find our “prince charming’ but may not be in the right emotional state to be with them at that time. Some things….perhaps even the BEST things take time.
  3. Being intentional about spending quality time with your spouse, does not mean you have to like or do the same things together all the time. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How can I intentionally incorporate time with my spouse into my daily schedule?
  • Am I giving myself permission to be happy? 
  • Am I giving myself permission to recharge?
  • How can I 100% support my spouse in their interests although they may not be the same as mine? 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: https://writeyourlastchapter.com/

Facebook: Physicians Living Intentionally

Instagram: @writeyourlastchapter

 

*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network

 

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • Why a California girl would move to India for medical school after high school 
  • Why a very successful pediatrician took a 3.5-year maternity leave
  • How Integrative medicine and mindfulness can better serve our patients

Marriage: 

  • How coaching can be life-saving
  • The two most common reasons couples argue 
  • When she realized she could not change him and, instead, changed herself…and then he noticed

Money:

  • Her method for demonstrating the concepts of saving, spending, and donating to young children
  • How she teaches her 2nd grader to diversify while investing 

Parenting:

  • The false perception that a Nanny can raise your kids
  • Learning to value herself after years of motherhood and exhaustion
  • How she mindfully parents through the pandemic
  • Why her children are no longer the center of her household
  • When she no longer strives to be the “Perfect Parent”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM PAYAL

  1. People who are happy with their work do it better! 
  2. Set boundaries for yourself because you cannot care for your children if you are running on empty. When you are not in a good mindset they will notice!
  3. Although you may disagree with your spouse at the moment it is important to show respect, especially if in front of children. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • How do I value myself as a person apart from my role as a parent or spouse?
  • How can I integrate mindfulness into my parenting or doctoring? How can I focus on the moment without worrying about the past or the future?
  • What boundary or goal can I set today that will help me prioritize myself and, in turn, my spouse and family?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: mdthemindfuldoctor.com

Facebook: @MDTheMindfulDoctor

Instagram: mdthemindfuldoctor

 

*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Medicine: 

  • How she fell in love with her hubby over cadavers in the anatomy lab
  • Her struggle with inadequacy for the FIRST time
  • Why medical school sets the stage for intimacy and life-long friendships 

Marriage: 

  • Why every couple needs to discuss priorities before marriage 
  • How to survive hurricanes, pandemics, and all hard situations
  • The importance of engaging children in conversations about work, finances, and the world 

Money: 

  • How they navigate never being on the same financial page
  • Why all women need an individual spending account
  • How to prepare for financial collapse 

Culture: 

  • The extra involved in being a woman of color
  • Being labeled “the smart little black girl”
  • The unique burden and privilege of being a person of color 
  • How to change the world
  • The importance of staying human and encouraging humanity in others

TAKE HOME POINTS

  1. When the going gets tough, it may be easier to walk away, so revisiting the shared values and discussing how priorities align can be grounding, humbling, and a way to continue loving. 
  2. We may never truly be on the same page with our spouse. Although we have similar goals, we have to constantly refocus, and redefine our needs and desires. 
  3. Welcome the positive energy and love in your life and shut out the toxicity.
  4. Use the unique privileges you were given. Stand up for your friends, colleagues, and trainees of COLOR. Go out of your way to engage in discussions that include and do not divide. 

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  1. What do I want to be when I grow up?
  2. If something happened to my spouse, would I know how to access our financial accounts and pay our bills?
  3. How can I encourage wellness amongst my peers and myself?
  4. How can I change the world today as the powerful human being that I am?

 

This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

When Peter realized he was playing the “victim of all the stuff” as a physician

How he decided he was going to take his life back and continue to practice medicine on his terms

Marriage: 

His version of how he met and fell in love with his wife, Vicki Chan Kim (listen to episode #2 for her version)

The proposal story (all the pressure!!!!)

When he schedules couple time with Vicki

Why your problems are NOT unique 

How he navigated their parents’ disapproval of his relationship with Vicki

Money:

His credit card debt history and why he USED to call himself the “King of late fees”

How Vicki was one of Peter’s first financial coaches and the “foreign concepts” she taught him

Why they designated “no guilt” spending accounts

What his marriage is worth

Confidence:

The importance of a coach

His miracle morning

 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM PETER

  1. Be with someone who can handle the REAL YOU and in return accept your spouse for the REAL THEM. We are all trying to do the best we can with what we have. Be understanding.
  2. Your problems are not that unique.
  3. Build up habits and rituals for a successful marriage the same way you would build up habits and rituals for a healthy you.
  4. Spend time daily in gratitude
  5. Immersion is KEY.  Your life, goals, and marriage are a work in progress.

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: passiveincomemd.com

Facebook: Peter Kim (Passive Income MD)

Instagram: passiveincomemd

Twitter: passiveincomemd

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

What type of marriage do I want?

What habits can I form to strengthen my marriage skills?

Which hours of which days each week can I dedicate to spending with my spouse and only my spouse?

How will I practice accepting and loving my spouse exactly as they are?

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Relationship:

  • Why opposites attract (I know, so cliche)
  • How she met her musician hubby
  • The proposal story
  • How they deal with their income disparity

Money:

  • How her and her hubby’s spending style is part of their mission
  • Why she became interested in personal finance
  • Why she hides her money (check out her blog called “Five ways to reverse your budget”)
  • Importance of diversification
  • The worst way to tell your spouse how much money you dropped on _____.

Confidence:

  • Imposter Syndrome is normal as confidence grows
  • Learning as a lifelong process
  • Do hard things because life is supposed hard
  • Surround yourself with inspirational people

THEN SHE FLIPS THE INTERVIEW ON ME!!!!!

I briefly talk on:

  • My childhood money jars
  • Tax codes as they change based on who is in office (GO VOTE!!!!)
  • Victor’s work schedule

Dr. Hamilton’s NEW Book: “Save Lives, Enjoy Your Own: Finding Your Place in Medicine”

 

  • Student or trainee, you will get a free sponsored copy at TiredSuerhero.com/join-the-launch
  • If you are anyone else, go to her blog, https://tiredsuperheroine.com/ to purchase an autographed copy
  • Or order on amazon for fastest delivery (if you don’t care about having the signed edition)

 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Dr. Barbara Hamilton

Website: https://tiredsuperheroine.com/

Facebook Group: Tired Superheroines (for women in male dominated fields)

Instagram: @tiredsuperheroine

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  1. How is my spending style part of my mission?
  2. How can I set up systems to hide my money so that I do not spend it all?
  3. Have I ever experienced imposter syndrome, and do I blame myself for it or do I accept it as normal?
  4. How can I surround myself with more inspirational people in order to grow everyday?

As a public figure and influencer, people often ask Dr. Tiffany Moon, how she does it all, and how she looks so good doing it. So what are her secrets?

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:

Children, Career & Home:

Division of labor in her home in regards to childcare and household duties.

Importance of the once a week “not so sexy” couple meeting.

Importance of being on the same “career page” as a couple.

Relationship:

How Tiffany met her hubby, Daniel Moon.

The proposal story.

Why she fell in love and why she is still in love.

Money:

How spending is discussed by her and her hubby.

The investing competition between her and Daniel.

Confidence: 

Comparing and shaming on social media.

Why we need to give each other grace and love.

Seeing for the best in everyone. 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: https://www.tiffanymoonmd.com/

Facebook: Tiffany Moon, MD

Instagram: @tiffanymoonmd

Tiktok: @tiffanymoonmd

 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

How can I make saving and investing a friendly competition with myself or with my spouse?

How can comparing myself to others I see on social media empower me instead of get me down?

How can I give more grace and love to those inside and outside of my home.

How We Designed Our Life as a Physician Couple:
 
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:
 
Children:

How her children made her rethink her career and life

How she and her husband designed systems at home for a successful family life

Benefits of a live-in Nanny
 
Relationship:

How Vicki met her hubby, Peter Kim

Her first impression of Peter and their first date

Why she fell in love and why she is still in love

Navigating their relationship as a dual physician couple

How she invests in her marriage
 
Money:

The smartest financial decision she ever made

How they make financial decisions together
 
Confidence:   

How she has so much confidence

How she does it all

Her thoughts on social media
 
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: https://www.vickichanmd.com/

Facebook: Vicki Chan Kim

Instagram: @vickichanmd

Tiktok: @vickichanmd
 
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

What type of life do you want?

What investments are you making in your marriage?

How can you design your life to promote more successful relationships with your children and your spouse?
Released: Sep 14, 2020

What does marital interdependence mean to you and what does it take to achieve it and maintain it? In other words, what makes a successful marriage and how does it last?

First let’s talk about what does not make a successful marriage.

Blame

Shame

Dependency

Relationships are not an emotional vending machine. We cannot pick and choose what we want our partner to feed us and how this will make us feel. If we want to be happy, we must first CHOOSE to be happy.

If we aim to mold or change our partner, we set ourselves up for relationship havoc.

So what makes a successful marriage?

A relationship requires trust, individual happiness and shared goals.

Your spouse’s only job is to be loved by you. Drop the expectations. Throw away the manual and exist from a place of love and support.

Love is not a fairytale or the perfect instagram photo. Love is failing and failing again and continuing to communicate, listen and hold space. Love is real life. Love has ups and downs and is rarely if ever 50/50.

Relationships take time, attention and patience. Not everyday or every moment will be magical, but everyday does have the potential to provide growth and bonding as long as you vow to unconditionally love.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

  • What makes a successful marriage
  • How highly successful couples make their relationship work
  • Why feeling like a failure is normal and part of the journey
  • Why dropping expectations could save your marriage
  • What “your spouse’s only job is to be loved by you” means
  • How to exist as a more supportive and loving partner in your relationship

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Drs. Letizia Alto & Kenji Asakura
Semi-Retired MD, https://semiretiredmd.com

Dr. Faryal Michaud
Write Your Last Chapter, http://writeyourlastchapter.com

Dr. Bonnie Koo
Wealthy Mom MD, https://wealthymommd.com

Dr. Barbara Hamilton
Tired Superheroine, https://tiredsuperheroine.com

Drs. Ali & Mark Novitsky
Life Coaching for Women Physicians, https://www.lifecoachingforwomenphysicians.com

Dr. Devon Gimbel
Physician Life Coaching, https://physicianlifecoaching.com

Dr. Katrina Samuels Hughes
Off the Grid

Dr. Robyn Frankel Tiger
The Physicians’ Self-Care Community, https://www.stressfreemd.net/

Dr. Sunny Smith
Empowering Women Physicians, https://empoweringwomenphysicians.com

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